A germy affair

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Last Friday, while at drop-in gymnastics, Oliver and I had stopped at the water fountain to get a much-needed drink of water. (I am aware that any germ haters in the audience are starting to get a little squirmy here). After Oliver was done having his drink, I found myself staring into the face of a (really cute) silent child (we’ll call him Timmy), who seemed to be indicating that he needed me to hold the fountain button for him. So I asked Timmy (the little imp) if this was indeed the case. Timmy nodded so dramatically that I thought he must be dying of thirst. I started to hold the button down.

Just as little Timmy was bowing his head to drink, I hear from behind me a loud and (I’m not even exaggerating here) prolonged:


I turn to see a mother-figure running towards us, practically mowing down little children in her way, a look of total and abject horror on her face. I, of course stopped what I was doing, afraid that the kid had some deathly allergy to water or something. Breathing heavily, the mother looked at little Timmy sternly: “we DON’T like water fountains,” she said, before leading the little tyke a few feet away. She then pulled out a bottle of Purell and wiped little Timmy’s water fountain-y hands off and gave him a sippy cup to quench his thirst. But not before looking at me like I was the most stupid and disgusting person ever to walk the planet.

The subject of germs seems to split parents into two factions. The ones who care (note here: the ones who care, generally seem to REALLY care), and the ones who are more, well, meh. You can probably already guess which camp I fall into. Meh.

I feel that I should point out here, that I know that there are germs in water fountains. Lots of ’em. Yes, I’m sure you could even get Hepatitis A, or something equally unfun. But you could also get Hepatitis A from eating in a restaurant. I like eating in restaurants. And every now and again, I like to drink from a water fountain. And so does Oliver.

While we are on the topic of germs, I also feel compelled to admit that I (and consequently my children) are lackadaisical hand washers. Yes, I’m trying to teach them to wash their hands after they pee, etc. But if we’re out and about, you won’t catch me wiping their hands with a bottle of Purell or diaper wipes.

I, for one, would rather my kids ingest a little park dirt (even dog poo tinged park dirt) than have them ingest say: Ethyl Alcohol, Isopropyl Alcohol, Carbomer, Tocopheryl Acetate, Glycerin, Propylene Glycol, Isopropyl Myrisate, which are the main ingredients in Purell. Or Propylene Glycol, Methylparaben, Propyl Paraben, Disodium Cocamphodiacetate, Polysorbate 20, and last but not least 2-Bromo-2-nitropropane-1,3-diol, which are commonly found ingredients found in baby wipes.

Call me crazy, but I’m feeding my kids dirt and pond scum and yes, even dog poop, before I’m feeding them 2-Bromo-2-nitropropane-1,3-diol. Because substances with names that have numbers and hyphens and are virtually unpronounceable do not belong in children. Hell, now that I’ve taken the time to write all of those ingredients down, I’m quite certain they don’t even belong on my kid’s asses. I’ll take my chances with the dirt and grime and grossness from nature (and, I will admit somewhat sheepishly, from my house), thank you very much.

To tell you the truth, though, even if there were an all natural, perfectly edible handย sanitizer, I’d still probably let my kids eat the dirt. For one, I’d forget. I’m awfully absent minded about those sorts of things. And for another. I just don’t care that much. And there it is, my dirty little secret. My kids get dirty. They probably eat dirt. They live in a usually dirty house that hasn’t (and won’t) see any antibacterial lotions or washes of wipes or sprays). I hose ’em down occasionally (along with the house). And you know what? They’re pretty healthy little buggers. Almost never sick. So it seems to be working alright.

My partner’s grandpa used to say “you gotta eat a pound of dirt before you die.”

Now that’s a philosophy I can get behind.

Comments on A germy affair

  1. I agree. I mean, I like to keep the bathroom and the kitchen counters clean, but if my kid ate a little dirt and used a water fountain, I wouldn't freak out over it.
    You need to get used to some germs in order to build up a strong immune system. I still use the water fountain at work. ๐Ÿ™‚ I also have two dogs that live in the house. I read that if you have pets when your child is a baby, your child is less likely to develop allergies later.

  2. It has now been suggested that we get sick more frequently and more severely because of the increased use of antibacterial soaps and hand sanitizer. Our tolerance to simple everyday bacteria has decreased due to lessened exposure. A secondary effect is that some bacteria has evolved to be more resistant to our antibacterial products creating "super bugs." A perfect example of this is MRSA which is simply an antibiotic resistant Staphlococcus aureus strain. This is a bacteria that is normally on our skin.

    Another side effect of the antibacterial products out there is that they kill everything, including our normal "good" bacteria that we need to survive which then causes our bodies to go out of balance. This is why some women experience yeast infections when they take antibiotics. The absolute fear and anal-retentive hand scrubbing that some parents force on their children, like the mother above, may actually be harming their children more than "saving" them from infection. Sorry didn't mean to write a novel but the soap and lotion companies have pushed their antibacterial lines so heavily that they've caused some kind of mass panic about bacteria.

    • I've read the same thing and it even goes as far as hospitals and that the superbugs are due to too much antibacterials used there too! Like you said, we need bacteria!

    • I was going to mention this. I took some medical classes in college and it's quite the debate! People don't realize that germs can be good and actually DO something positive in the craziness we call homeostatic bodies! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • EXACTLY! If you use something that kills 99.9% of germs, that 0.01% that survives, survives because it's the strongest. Then, that 0.01% BREEDS and makes SUPERGERMS!


    • Not to nitpick, but MRSA and other antibiotic resistant bacteria came from the misuse of ANTIBIOTICS, not from hand sanitizer or antibacterial soap use.

      I do agree however, that it is not necessary to fear drinking fountains or eating dirt. Scientists are researching why Western countries have so many more people with autoimmune diseases and allergies. They think it may be because we are too clean and not exposed to normal levels of bacteria and parasites.

      But not ALL hand washing is bad. Hand washing with regular soap is the number one way to prevent the spread of infectious diseases, which can be dangerous to our kids. I work in a hospital and we wash our hands to protect our patients and to keep from bringing diseases home to our families.

  3. Finally! I have an exceptionally healthy child and I am the least vigilant hand washer EVER. I also mostly clean my house with baking soda, and the occasional splash of vinegar if I'm really ambitious. Anti-bacterial stuff is a waste of money.

  4. Here here to the chill mama's. God knows I licked a fair number of inappropriate surfaces as a child. I am ever facinated by the extreme germ-a-phobe mama's and in talking to a few I know, I think they really have their kids best interests at heart. One mama told me she just remembers her son being born and hearing the doctor's advice about crowds etc after he was born and she just thought about how precious he was and how she wanted to protect him.

    As a nurse though, I thoroughly advocate washing your hands. Wash those little suckers, especially during cold and flu season. Your little ones may have a strong immune system but they may pass those germies to someone who does not. You don't have to use antibacterial soap. Shoot, I use the homemade stuff!

    • well, only for the first few months. in the long run there aren't any studies that prove that it's any more beneficial than formula feeding. good news for those with limited reserves!

  5. amen!!! there's common sense about germs (like hand washing), but then there's overkill!
    my daughter plays with our two cats, and frequently eats food she has just dropped and picked up, as did my brother, sister and I. we're all fine, healthy adults, and she's only ever been really sick once in her 18 month life!

  6. Great post. I'm not a mother yet, but I will certainly have the same attitude as you. I dont see any benefit of wrapping our kids up in cotton wool and "protecting" them from every day, generally harmless germs,

  7. My mother still remarks on the difference between my cousin and I healthwise when we were growing up. My mother had too much life going on to much more than once a week laundry day and give the house what she referred to as "a lick and a promise" Not an actual lick you understand, though the photos of me as a baby licking the floor might dispute that.
    I was a remarkably healthy child, I was off school sick once in eleven years ( several times with concussion having fallen out of trees etc)

    My aunt on the other hand sterilised everything she could and cleaned, polished, vacumed every surface every day. Outdoor clothes and shoes had to be removed in the hall and exchanged before entering the rest of the house and hands had to be washed every hour on the hour (yes really) as well as after going to the lavatory etc.
    I've never known a house smell more of cleaning products and air fresheners

    My cousin had incessant colds, coughs, chest infections, ear infections and to this day having left home some 10 years previously still has almost no immunity to germs. Of course she could just be predisposed to be particuarly prone but my mother maintains it's because she was never allowed to build up an immunity.

  8. Although I do MOSTLY agree with you, I'm a lab tech and my favorite section *and has become a personal interest of mine* is microbiology. Please do drink from water fountains, eat at restraunts, and a decent wipe down with a sponge IS better than layering everything with lysol!

    BUT where we will have to differ is on this dirt thing. There's some really nasty parasites out there because of animals doing number 2 outside ESPECIALLY near tree trunks. This is even more true if you live or play in an area frequented by raccoons. One parasite in particular, called the raccoon ring worm or baylisascaris procyonis, can cause your kid to have encephalitis or migriating larvae in their body- to the point where they might see a worm go across their eyeball. Heres the thing though, if the dirt they play in is in a contained area-say a covered porch with lots of plants then you would have nothing to worry about, its mostly just around slanted ground that the little critters with awesomely bad parasites that you have to use caution. Oh and heres the thing too, a kid with pica who is just eating dirt pie after dirt pie is at risk-more than likely not one who plays in the dirt and then eats a cupcake without washing their hands in between.

    All in all, I think you are on the right track. A person overly exposed to antibacterials will have a harder time fighting off bacteria and viruses than one with no contact =)

    • Hey Katie. I know my post up there seems quite the opposite of what I'm going to say but I do agree with you. I'm a biologist and I've worked in the micro field. There are lots of nasty things in dirt, especially poo. Kids and adults should wash their hands after playing in the dirt or other activities like handling raw meat, handling animals, etc. My big thing is obsessively washing hands. I actually used to be very diligent about washing my hands when I worked as a microbio lab tech because I worked with some nasty bugs (i.e. MRSA and (I worked with MRSA and the 0157 E.coli strain). While in that situation it was a good thing but I developed a nasty allergic reaction to almost all soaps as a result. :-/.

  9. I couldn't agree with you more. I'm the exact opposite of a germaphobe, and my kids are never, ever, EVER sick. Four kids, eleven years, ONE ear infection and round of antibiotics. That's a pretty good track record, if you ask me. Kids who are exposed to germs are LESS likely to get sick, because they have healthier immune system. You know who they say the healthiest kids are? The ones who are raised on farms. Why? Because they are outside, playing with the animals and getting dirty!

    Also, there is a suspicious link between our germaphoic society of Purell users and the surge of autoimmune diseases/food allergies in children. It used to be a hereditary thing, but what about all these other kids? With no exposure to germs, their immune systems have beome "bored", and it could be the reason for all these cases of allergies.

    I think I'm OK with cooties.

  10. I teach preschool– and guess what? The kids who show up on the first day with their own bottle of Purel are ALWAYS the ones who spend the most time out sick. They aren't ever able to build an immunity to ANYTHING.

    And– this is kind of off subject– but all those chemicals in baby stuff? Man alive. We have been using cloth diapers on our baby since day one, but one day forgot the diaper bag and had to grab disposables from the store. Dude– after she wet one, it SMELLED so chemically (compared to cloth) that it made me wonder what is in them!

  11. Preach it, Sister! I'm pretty laissez faire about germs. We don't buy antibacterial soaps, and our house is cleaned with home made vinegar cleaners. Our son has never had an ear infection, and so far this winter, he hasn't been home sick once. (Yeah, he's gotten the sniffles once or twice, but it didn't slow him down.) I think he's pretty darn healthy.

  12. Hahaha. This reminds me of an older woman at the electric company the other day who *pleaded* with me to put sanitizer on my daughter's hands after she decided that standing in line was too much, so she was going to sit on the floor. I hardly ever wash my daughter's hands. I know that's probably gross and not healthy but I am a firm believer that it simply builds her immune system. The only purel we have in my house was given to me by other people. i clean with vinegar and baking soda…occasionally method products in the bathroom.
    As for the baby wipes, we use Earth First natural wipes. They're thicker – so I don't feel like I'm wiping poop onto my hands every time she messes her diaper. And they didn't make her sensitive bum break out when she was a teeny tiny baby.
    So go on – and just look at the Purell-toting mom's like they're the crazy ones. Because really, not even stoners should be that paranoid about anything.

  13. True Story: A professor of medicine at Oxford University, where I used to work back then, once told us that when his son & dil came by with their young infant, he was very worried by their sterile approach to child-hygiene. Whenever they would leave the room and he was alone with his grandchild, he would quickly get the pacifier, rub it on the carpet, and stuff it back in the infant's mouth. With his knowledge of immunology he knew that a child NEEDS to 'eat dirt' to build up a good immune system.

  14. In total agreement. We knew a family who actually mad their daughters extremely sick — hospitalization!– because mom cleaned EVERYTHING all the freaking time. The woman was so obsessive that she would have to wipe books down with chlorox wipes they got from the library. My sisters dreaded when she'd call for baby sitting.

    Oh, and other than the rat-poo thing with bottled drinks, things like water fountains are eco-friendly to boot ๐Ÿ˜€ Yay for not wasting plastic bottles!!

  15. I am definitely in the "meh" camp with regards to dirt. Yesterday my youngest ate some cereal off the floor and I thought my husband would have a heart attack. I told him that it was better than the styrofoam peanuts he was trying to consume earlier-at least it was food. Bacteria and dirt go hand-in-hand and are beneficial to us!!

  16. Here here!! Let the kids be kids, and kids get dirty! I remember walking down a huge stairwell into the subway in Hong Kong, and looking over to see that my 2 year old sister's tongue had been on the handrail the whole way down. When she didn't get sick from that, I think all my fears of germs went out the window.

  17. I can barely remember to wash my own hands, and my daughters? Yeah, when she's sticky or looks dirty, but otherwise…no. Once she gets to potty changing stage we'll have to change that a bit, but for now "Let Them Eat Dirt"

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