I'm a loud and proud hedonist. Here's why you should be too…

Hedonists are labeled as greedy pleasure-seekers with no moral compass. But that's such an archaic stereotype! In fact, the Church's Seven Deadly Sins (lust, pride, sloth, greed, envy, wrath, gluttony) are basic human feelings that, as a hedonist, I feel we shouldn't be shamed for.

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What people totally get wrong about you when you're a private person

I envy anyone who is able to open up to acquaintances and sometimes even strangers about their personal lives. When shit goes down in their lives, you'll hear about it, and there seems to be something really freeing about that. I wouldn't know as I'm one of those super private people who needs a subpoena to get anything out of me.

The problem is, if you don't talk about your life, people will assume some pretty off-base things about you. Here's what I've found that people will totally get wrong about you when you're a private person…

My short skirt is NOT an invitation to be sexually harassed

Apparently one out of three Australian women are afraid to walk down the street alone, especially after dark. We don't live in a country where intimidation, degradation, or violence against women is acceptable — so what the hell is going on?

It's time to educate both men and women about this issue. It's time to stop bullying each other into acting or wearing what most think of as "socially acceptable." Here are a few points that you could consider to empower yourself, or share with others that this issue affects…

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Hey "bad moms," let's give ourselves permission to feel competent

Since the birth of my daughter, I've found myself using the phrase "I'm a bad mom" a lot. It horrifies my husband, who associates bad moms with criminals, not ordinary women with ordinary flaws.

Think about your best girlfriend who is also a mom. Now imagine someone called her a bad parent. How would you feel?

Somebody said it to my face once. He didn't really know me, had never met my daughter, he was just a drunken dick in the bar where I work, but he said it, he looked me in the eye and said: "You're a bad mother." Let me tell you, it's one hell of a fucking insult, and we should never, never, say it to ourselves.

How to find yourself when you're focused on raising someone else?

Younger mamas, I want you to know that us older mamas are just as befuddled at times as you are. I was in my mid-30s when I had my first child, and I don't feel as if you ever finish the finding-yourself journey — nor would I want to. It's part of the joy of being alive.

That said, here's what's helped for me to reconnect in areas of my life that need it…