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My Halloween regret: I used to wear cultures as costumes

Halloween may be a day permitting mitigated inhibitions, but our ethical responsibilities do not get a day off. I speak on this point as someone personally guilty of this specific kind of oversight. At one point in my young adult life, I costumed-up for the holiday as a cultural stereotype, and to this day I look back at what should be cute pictures of fun memories, but instead… I cringe at my offensive choice (and rightly so). I am guilty of perpetuating the social norm that appropriating cultures to which we do not belong and of whose complexities we do not comprehend is somehow acceptable.

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Defying gender binaries with Alok Vaid-Menon — a gender non-conforming writer, performer, & fashion icon

Alok feels that the concepts of masculinity and femininity shouldn't have relevance in this day and age. "We need to be much more colorful, expansive, and precise about what we mean rather than defaulting into ideological catchalls that do more harm than good," he tells me.

Being that Alok is a person of color, I wonder if they feel that ethnicity/race ties into the equation in a meaningful way. Their reply is so profound that I'm still sort of reeling from it…

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I'm a loud and proud hedonist. Here's why you should be too…

Hedonists are labeled as greedy pleasure-seekers with no moral compass. But that's such an archaic stereotype! In fact, the Church's Seven Deadly Sins (lust, pride, sloth, greed, envy, wrath, gluttony) are basic human feelings that, as a hedonist, I feel we shouldn't be shamed for.

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What people totally get wrong about you when you're a private person

I envy anyone who is able to open up to acquaintances and sometimes even strangers about their personal lives. When shit goes down in their lives, you'll hear about it, and there seems to be something really freeing about that. I wouldn't know as I'm one of those super private people who needs a subpoena to get anything out of me.

The problem is, if you don't talk about your life, people will assume some pretty off-base things about you. Here's what I've found that people will totally get wrong about you when you're a private person…