Introducing Eye Candy: because caregivers are hot, and we want to see more of 'em

8 month old dreads
Photo by christopherandtia.

Back in the day Offbeat Mama used to have a post series about DILFs (yes, it stands for what you think it stands for — think MILF) being praised for their awesome sexy dad ways. The feature was fun, but also problematic as it was inherently heteronormative (what about sexy lesbian moms?) and nuclear family-focused (what about single parents? offbeat aunties?). Some people also thought it was tacky, but that never bothered us. We're fine with tacky, but not so much with excluding lesbian and non-nuclear families.

But the FUN thing about DILFs was that you guys got to send in photos of your loves and tell us why and how they're rocking parenthood, and then everyone else got to drool and/or celebrate the person in question. We really loved that the DILF series allowed us to recognize that sexiness doesn't stop after parenthood. That's well-worth celebrating!

Daddy reads to Eloise
Photo by Athena Camp.

After debating for a bit, we've decided to resurrect and rebrand the old DILF series — now it's called EYE CANDY, a completely inclusive way for you to unabashedly gush about the caregiver in your child's life that is the hottest of the hot. Hot moms, hot dads, hot aunties and hot uncles, hell: HOT GRANDPARENTS. We want to celebrate all the hotness.

culbreth148
Photo by Vitalic Studio.

So now we want it all: send us photos and details as to why someone is smokin' and we'll post it so everyone can ogle and gush. It'll be FUN!

As always, you can drop photos in our Flickr pool (be sure to include a caption about what makes your partner so awesome!) or send them to us directly.

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  1. Yay ROCK!! The DILF thing always made me a bit squeemish but I totally love this idea. Won't have any "eye-candy" contributions for another 3-4 months, but as my husband is going to be the stay-at-home-dad lead caregiver, I anticipate I'll eventually have a few to share. Looking forward to sharing and celebrating the rest of the awesome peeps who may not always get the props they deserve. ๐Ÿ™‚

    • OH MY GOSH I remember this book from my childhood! The animal form the zoo plays with his spots (like juggles with them and everything), but I can't remember anything else, much less the title. I remember I even wrote a poem as a sequel! Please, I hope someone can remind us…

  2. Quick question: The Flickr pool you linked to says its for your very best family photos, and specifically asks to not post snapshots. But this post seems to encourage less formal (non posed) photos so I'm confused. Maybe my definition of a snapshot is just off, like to me the first two examples in this post would be snapshots, while the third is a more formal photo. I just want to be sure I'm not uploading the wrong type of images to the pool.

    • While we try to avoid grainy cell-cam shots packed with red-eyes and out-of-focus faces, most snapshots are fine. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Yay! I personally always loved the DILF posts (being from a herteronormative family…im a bit of an ass i guess for not thinking of how it was leaving others out) and was sad when they got rid of them because i wanted to send in a post about my kick ass chef husband.

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  4. Something I'm sure you're asked all the time, but if you're concerned about not being heteronormative… why not change this site to Offbeat Parent? Seriously– my husband would be a lot more likely to read it if it were not strictly geared at moms, and I can imagine primary caregiver dads or gay fathers feeling especially excluded (even though they have all the same concerns as a primary caregiver mom).

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  5. Don't forget to include nonbinary, trans*, and gender nonconforming caregivers — not all parents are "mom" or "dad," (or caregiving relatives even "auntie" and "uncle")… let's make sure when we're trying to avoid heteronormativity, we're going all the way. I'm glad we're recognizing lots of different caregiving arrangements and valuing caregivers of many stripes, let's just make room for folks who aren't "he" and "she," there are "they" and "ze" caregivers as well.

  6. I think you're doing a great job of including everyone, and I am SO glad you're bringing the feature back [new and improved]! Thank you!

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