I am a working mom. I love my two-year-old daughter more than light, but ever since she was 11 weeks old, my husband and I have had help of one variety or another… that is until COVID-19.
Now we’re all at home, alone together, working, and trying to wade through this mess.
My husband and I are super grateful to have this extra time with our daughter, AND to have the kind of jobs we can do from home, AND to still have paychecks. But let’s be real, our kid is 2, and we can’t exactly leave her to her own devices and focus on our work.
And for me, the guilt is real! The mom guilt that I’m not giving my daughter all she needs/deserves, and the work guilt that my job needs me, and I’m not doing my best…I feel defeated most days.
Between my daughter and my job, I’m fully occupied from 6am until 8pm every weekday, and I’m the kind of person who needs solid sleep to function.
That leaves me about two hours each day to have a glass of wine, spend “time” with my husband, cook, clean, exercise, play with my dogs, and generally unwind enough that I’m able to fall asleep before I have to get up in the morning and start again.
I don’t have time or energy for all the beautiful, educational, fun projects that I see other moms doing online… and that’s assuming I could even get the materials! And I certainly haven’t seen a project yet that’s suitable for my 2-year-old to do unsupervised.
Other working parents: How are you managing to work from home with young kids who need constant supervision/entertainment? Is the answer here really just, “Tough shit, life is hard right now. Level Up!”??
I have need of your smarts!! I know I’m not the only one struggling with this problem or this guilt! Can we just share our struggles, and successes, and maybe feel a little less defeated??