Posted byWe’re adding a new series on Offbeat Home & Life called “Where Are They Now?” where we catch up with the couples from Offbeat Bride profiles past. First up is Trisha & Matt whom you may remember from their adorable DIY wedding in California.
Name & Occupation: Trisha, Uhh homemaker?
Partner’s Name & Occupation: Matthew, Database Administrator/Web Developer
Wedding date: February 19, 2012
Your Offbeat Bride profile: Trisha & Matthew’s lots of DIY colorful wedding
It’s been about a year and a half since our wedding. Eight months after our wedding we went on an AMAZING honeymoon in Italy for two weeks. Shortly after that, I left my job of almost nine years to “follow my dreams” and took a cake decorating job. Unfortunately the new job didn’t work out and I left five months later.
Now I’m working at home and helping Matthew with some side projects he’s working on. Eventually we’d like to be self-employed. Matt’s been making YouTube videos about comic books for a while now, and recently I decided to start my own YouTube channel where I do recipe videos and cake decorating tutorials, so I’ve been spending a lot of time on that.
Looking back all these years later, what do you remember most about your wedding?
The main thing that stands out about our wedding is just how much fun everyone had. People still tell us that it was a really laid back and fun wedding, which makes me happy because that’s exactly what I was going for.
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Did you re-purpose any wedding decor or attire? We want to see!
Some of the paper flowers are in vases in our house, and the rest got distributed to friends and family Also, the bouquets are in vases on the mantel. And of course, the jukebox is in our living room!
What big challenges have you faced? What have you learned from them?
The roughest times we’ve had since getting married have revolved around work. I left my long time job for a cake decorating job which I ended up really disliking. Along with disliking the job itself, it was a long drive from home and the hours were really rough.
This caused a lot of stress and resulted in us eating out a lot and feeling really unhealthy. I was an emotional wreck because I felt like I had made a mistake, and missed my old job so much. We made the decision for me to quit, and came up with a plan for me to work from home which has given me more time to focus on our home and getting healthy. We are feeling so much better now with the way things are going.
What I have learned through all of this is that you have to pursue what you want or it won’t happen. Matt has really helped me to see that when you’re having a rough time, sitting down together with a pen and paper and coming up with a plan is a much more productive solution than being miserable and taking it out on each other which is really easy to fall into.
How do you keep your romance alive?
We haven’t been going on too many dates lately, I think we need to work on that. Lately, our thing has been watching Star Trek: The Original Series together. We try and watch one every night and just relax for a bit.
What advice do you have for newlyweds?
Well, we’re still working on that stuff too, especially the housekeeping thing! We’re both equally bad at it. But, I think what I said at the end of the “challenges” section would have to be the best advice I have.
So what other Offbeat Bride couples should we follow up on? Get in on the discussion here.
Congratulations you too! It’s nice to see a couple working through so many obstacles! And the fact that you left work to follow a dream, and it didn’t work out really inspired me. Knowing that if I do the same, and it doesn’t work out, well it’s not the end of the world. At least you took a chance and aren’t having to live with “what if’s” (like I’m doing lol). I wish you both many, many years of happiness!!
You are so right, I know if I hadn’t left for that job I probably wouldn’t have left for a long long time because I was so comfortable there, and I always would have wondered “what if?”
Oh, yay! I loved reading this, and I can’t wait to see more of these in the future!
Watching Star Trek together is also the way my husband and I connect at the end of the day. We’ve gone through all of Next Generation and DS9, and now we’re in season 6 of Voyager. Will our marriage survive watching Enterprise? Only time will tell…
Haha! It’s especially fun because I’ve never watched Star Trek before believe it or not! I’m a huge Stargate fan though so I decided to give it a try and I’m loving it.
We had a deal: he would watch Buffy if I would watch Next Gen. We watched one episode of each every night, with each of us powering through the truly terrible first season of the other’s favorite show because, until we both got really into both. Yay for sharing geekiness with your loved one!
If you can survive Voyager, you’ll enjoy Enterprise. It’s a little campy, a little low-budget, and a lot like the original series in spirit. My fiance and I prefer it to Voyager. He prefers DS9 to Next Generation, but I grew up watching NG so I’ll always have a soft spot in my heart for that cast.
There are a lot of interesting things to think about and comment on in this post, but I can only think of how I want a PUPPY NECK PILLOW!!!
HAHAHAHA! Love this! Penny does make a good neck pillow 🙂
I reeeeeaalllly like this idea! Quick little answers to things we see all the time here (repurposing wedding stuff, keeping romance alive, etc.), each from the perspective of one couple we probably drooled over before! Love it!
“Looking back all these years later, what do you remember most about your wedding?”
All these years later… as in, 15 months ago? 😛
Yay for the new series!
Ooh, I want to be where are they now’d! So much stuff has happened since we were on Offbeat Bride!
I love this! It puts wedding planning into so much perspective to see how people are doing after some time has past. Congrats to the couple on a happy 1st year of marriage.
I’d also love to be ‘where are they now’d’ 😀 I totally understand where this bride is coming from tho – and am impressed she stuck out the cake job for 5 months when it was less than Ideal. The first year of marriage, i’ve heard, can be very hard. We just had our one year anniversary this past weekend. Keep up the good fight and congrats on podcasting! I know it’s one of my fave things to do 🙂
If you guys decide, in the future, to where are they now us, here was our wedding:
http://offbeatbride.com/2012/11/chicago-sparkly-wedding
and my tribe page:)
http://tribe.offbeatbride.com/members/kawaiicat7/