My hubs and I got married in our mid-20s, and are now approaching mid-30s after ten years of marriage. We’ve been really happy through all our ups and downs, and love our life as is. The thing is, some of friends, and definitely our parents, have begun really pushing the baby thing. The parents want grandkids. Hubs and I have siblings with a few small kids as well as friends with kids of varying ages, but our parents want them from us.
Early in the marriage when this conversation would come up, we could just say “Oh well, we don’t think we want any, plus we’re too young to be thinking about that right now,” and that would be that. But now, we’re pretty settled and that answer just won’t do.
Recently, we got a “we eloped!” announcement from one of his cousins and he said “Wouldn’t it be great if we could send an announcement that we aren’t having kids!” I laughed, all “Yeah right,” but he really liked the idea. He said we could do it in a light-hearted way, but with a serious yet gentle note included that says we know everybody really wanted us to have kids, and we love everybody and thank them for their thoughts and opinions on the matter but we’ve decided that having kids just isn’t for us; we are looking forward to the many years we have to share together, and in sharing those years with everybody else, too.
I feel like taking this kind of step is the only way to make it “official” to our loved ones that we are not having kids. I feel like it could also be kind of cute and fun to do, but I really don’t know… would it be seriously tacky/rude/untasteful to send this kind of announcement to our family and friends?