spirituality

The year I started dating god with a lowercase g

I think I’m in a polyamorous relationship with god.

This sounds insane in maybe 10 different ways, especially for ME to say, since for most of my life, my spirituality boiled down to don’t know, don’t care! … but it’s probably the most accurate description of happened for me this past year. Of course I’m talking about “god” lower case non-denominational, so maybe it’s a little less surprising than if the story here was “Offbeat Bride lady raised by hippies goes evangelical,” but still.

A letter to my goddaughter about religion

Agapi mou, I don’t know how much you understood about what your yaya and I were saying tonight. You seemed pretty into the cool new Barbie™ Theia Athena bought you. But even if you didn’t notice now, I imagine that one day you will have questions, so I wanted to address them — while some […]

5 books that changed my life this year (no, like, ACTUALLY changed my life)

There were a few books this year that changed my life — not in that hyperbolic “omg this cup of chai is like totally changing my life right now!” way, but as in these books completely shifted how I look at my existence, structure my days, manage my relationships, and handle my sanity. Like, these books actually changed my life this year.

Building an independent daily spiritual practice

For me, my daily spiritual practice is a pretty personal, private thing. It makes me a little squeamish to share what I’m doing, but I’ve invested a lot of time into developing my personal spiritual practice this year, and so maybe sharing what I’m doing will be interesting to other folks on their own solo spiritual journeys…

The sacred jack-off: taking masturbation to a whole new weird level

I was talking to a married friend recently, and she was all, “Look, it’s cool that so many people are exploring forms of polyamory, but that’s not me and that’s not my marriage. I want to find new ways to expand my sexual experiences that AREN’T other people.”

And I was all, “Fuck yes — have you tried doing, like, a sacred jack-off?”

And she was all, “Did you make this up?”

And I was all, “Pssht. No.”

What I’m learning from dancing poorly

Inspired by a local dancer’s athletic performance in a show I saw years ago, I asked her if she would teach me some stuff. She said she would, and then I cried a lot because it’s really hard looking stupid and learning new things. METAPHOR ALERT!

Tarot, crystals, and empowerment: Confessions of a secular witch

Witchcraft has something that’s been a huge part of my life for years. But there’s so much stigma surrounding what it means to be a witch that I just didn’t feel comfortable opening myself up to speculations and ridicule.

I’ve realized that the best way to clear up misconceptions is to talk freely about them. With that in mind, here I am, declaring myself publicly to be a practitioner of secular witchcraft…

Wands optional: intentional thinking and magic

For me, focus, intentional thinking, meditation, prayer, and mindfulness all translate to a clearer trajectory and more successful outcome for whatever task I’m grappling with. It’s helped my mental health, my goal-setting, and focus.