Does choosing an LGBTQ+ label mean you’re THAT forever?
Some people have asked me: if I identify with a term today does that mean you always have to identify that way? The answer to that question can be complicated and contentious. Here’s my take: HELL FREAKING NO!
My heartfelt advice: Don’t worry so much about labels. Labels are great, but, in some ways, they’re also for cans.
My same-sex marriage is as real as yours no matter what happens
With all the movement towards marriage equality in Australia (and now speculation in the US again), I thought it was time to talk about and maybe even open a discussion about gay marriage. Luckily for me and my wife, it is recognized in America post-Obergefell v. Hodges. I have mentioned my upbringing as a late-bloomer in the South, and the fact that I was raised to believe marriage is between a man and a woman. Little did I realize, when hearing these things, that I would find myself deeply in love and married to a woman when I grew up. Falling in love with someone of the same sex really puts a dent in those childhood teachings…
Why I’m okay with coming out of the closet over and over
Coming out is not something that happens once and it’s over.
The first time I came out was with a bang. The anxiety accompanied with the initial big reveal has faded. Nevertheless, I continue to experience coming out of the closet over and over again…
So much rainbow pride gear for LGBT Pride Month (that you can Amazon Prime today!)
If you’re in the market for some new LGBT Pride Month gear, outfits, and accessories, ’tis the season. It’s June and we’re pulling out our rainbow wear! Before you say anything, consider sending your money to good places by grabbing merch from organizations like The Trevor Project, ACLU, or tossing an equal amount to your favorite cause.
But if you’re in need of some rainbow Pride right NOW (and want to Amazon Prime it to your house), we’ve got some to check out…
My brush with hate and how I am moving forward
We made a stop at a little diner in Kentucky to refuel after four hours on the road. The diner was empty except for a little white haired couple who were so offended by a couple of gay girls coming to eat near them, that they left the restaurant. They left their glasses filled and menus lying on the table. What did we do to deserve that little bit of hate? I was fully aware we were in a conservative area of the country; in a very small minority in that area but what about that fact made it okay for that couple to completely walk out simply because of our presence?
Growing up Southern as a lesbian late bloomer
When you’re raised in a way that shields you from anything that’s different, it really alters your ability to think outside of the small little box that’s your world. Had I met someone when I was younger who was gay or bisexual, maybe there would have been bells and whistles going off and I wouldn’t have been clueless for so long. Who knows? But I was blind for a very very long time. I met a guy who I married, had a couple of kids, and that’s how the story was supposed to go…
…only it didn’t.
Here’s why being a wife with a wife is awesome
I have a wife. This is one sentence I honestly thought I would never say. I will admit, saying it makes me giggle in a school girl kind of way. I love it. I love having a wife and being a wife. Having been previously married to a dude, I have fantastic perspective on how gay marriage and straight marriage works and I have to tell you, having a wife is the bees knees. Here are just a few of the perks and why wives are awesome…
On unexpectedly finding love after feeling like I don’t deserve it
I gave bits and pieces of myself to people that never really earned it. I was hurt repeatedly, but was okay with that, because I thought “I deserved it.” I had a resentment buried down inside of me so deep that it had tainted my being. I was told I wasn’t good enough and I believed it — I let myself believe his words. I had never looked in someone’s eyes and saw love. I just kept living with mediocrity.
And then I met her…