Category Archive

identity

How do you tell your kid you’re an atheist?

How do you have the atheist talk? We don’t believe in any religion, therefore we don’t have any literature, examples, or classes to give him. We tried to explain what other people think “god” is, but just couldn’t find the words to describe it. He ended up thinking that there is a god who is a magician who lies to people, which is not what we want him to think.

Surprising discoveries I’ve made in my life as an offbeat military wife

Marrying into the military can be scary, especially for those of us who don’t always follow the status quo. However, one thing with the military that isn’t talked about too much is that all sorts of people join.

Passing for straight: parenting with a man as a queer woman

I hear some of you wondering “Then why bother telling him? If you’re monogamous with a man, aren’t you basically straight anyway? What does it matter what other people think?” All I can tell you is, it does matter. We are talking about no less than who I am, at my very foundation.

My teenage sister thinks she might be gay. How can I best support her?

Nadia’s teen sister recently confided that she feels attracted to females — how can Nadia best support her sister?

Has becoming a parent changed your values?

Becoming a parent made author Jonathan Safran Foer become a vegetarian. Has parenthood changed you?

How can you find yourself when you’re focused on raising someone else?

How do you teach your child to cultivate a sense of self if you yourself don’t have one?

Usernames and the momidentity crisis

Since both Offbeat Bride and Offbeat Families are essentially about women in relationships going through a transition (marriage, starting a family) I feel like I catch people in a really interesting state of identity shift. One of the many ways these shifts are expressed are through usernames and avatars.

I always thought I was a toughie: the birth of a new emotional being as mother

Cris went from deleting emails with fluffy kittens to crying over those same damn kittens after giving birth to her son, and has yet to return to “normal.”