How do you handle money and debt in a relationship?
My partner and I are cool with a lot of things, but in certain arenas we just don’t line up. How do you reconcile it when one person in a relationship feels that debt is a sad reality of this modern life, and accepts debt as “just something that happens,” and the other person is more in line with the “DEBT IS AN EMERGENCY” kinda deal?
I’m just curious how people reconcile different attitudes toward saving money.
Can’t touch this: How to maintain personal space while pregnant
I am not generally a hugger. I tend to tense up when someone even reaches in my personal space. And I know when I tell people I’m pregnant they’ll will tend to want to invade my space.
How do I keep this from happening?
How to talk about death when no one else wants to
Death is natural, and having concerns about death is natural. What isn’t natural is entirely rejecting the reality of the human condition and refusing to talk about death.
This is a tough topic, but here are a few things that might be helpful…
How to talk to your kids about poverty when they’re growing up poor
I grew up very poor. I remember asking my mom if we were poor, because the kids at school said we were. She replied that we were poor by our communities standards, but by worldwide standards we were very fortunate. She talked to me about poverty very frankly and openly, and it really made an impression on me…
I don’t know what I did wrong: What should I do?
It’s confusing and hurtful, to say the least. But we’ve all been left with self-esteem issues, too — worried that we’re capable of causing incredible damage to our loved ones, without even knowing it.
I suppose there’s not much to be done, other than to discuss it amongst ourselves and go to therapy. But if anybody has a great idea for helping us make peace when you don’t know what you did wrong, I’d definitely appreciate it.
5 things to do to get your relationship ready for a baby
Boundaries, dates, and looking at baby pictures together…
Here are some of the best things we did, when I was pregnant, to get our relationship ready before the baby came!
Here are some ways to help your male partner understand sexism
As a woman married to a man, I struggle with how to talk to him about sexism. It is so obvious to me in my life, something that affects my work, social, and volunteer interactions daily. Yet it can be so hard to describe to someone (ie. a man) who does not see it, live it, or seem to believe it.
I want my partner to be my ally, as well as an ally to his mother, sisters, and nieces. How can we as women, help our male partners see sexism and how it affects us every day? What are some ways to have this conversation? What has worked for you?
Mama, why are you fat?: Teaching kids about different bodies
Growing up, I was teased all the time about my weight, and it affected me profoundly. I was almost 30 before I reached a place where I could just inhabit my body without seeing it as a problem. I decided that I didn’t want to view my own skin as an enemy. And I certainly don’t want my children growing up thinking that everyone should look like people in magazines, or that we should all just be miserable with our physical bodies because they aren’t “perfect.”
We all fight this fight, and we probably all want a better world for our children to have bodies in. How do we make that happen?