I am an offbeat stepmama to two beautiful stepsons with different mothers, ages nine and one-and-a-half. In their other homes, they live relatively healthy, active lives and they are well looked after and cared for in conventional ways. They have conventional toys, are socialized according to gender (with an emphasis on heterosexuality), and are educated about nutrition using common standards.
In our home, we put a little more value on the differences of people instead of conformity, we don’t find encouraging heterosexuality to be important, and we are vegan. These are key differences in our outlook on life but we are struggling to find a peaceful way to raise the kids without them feeling like both choices aren’t equally as valuable. Both ways are valid ways to think and live.
How do non-custodial offbeat parents teach the children their views without disparaging the other household? — Laurel