I was super excited when my husband and I decided to start trying to have a baby. When we got pregnant the first month we tried I was a little scared — and not just the normal, “OMG we created life… are we crazy?!” scared. This will be my second pregnancy but my husband’s first — when we met I was a single mom to my son.
My first pregnancy was very lonely and confusing, and I spent a lot of it with very dark thoughts and very little enthusiasm. The love I have for my son is strong and amazing, but when I found out I was pregnant for a second time I was excited to erase those memories of a dark pregnancy and to build this new experience with my son and husband by my side — to be proud of myself and this new baby.
I’m struggling with remembering that while this is my second pregnancy it’s my husband’s first — I was initially going to skip out on a baby shower, birthing classes and a weekly belly book because of my past experience. My first pregnancy isn’t ruining my second pregnancy, but the memories are definitely present. I don’t want my second pregnancy to be dominated by fixating on the past. How have other families handled the extra emotions that come with this kind of situation without constantly comparing the two pregnancies? — Jess