I gave birth to my baby boy almost two years ago. Due to circumstances out of my control in the creation of him, I placed him for adoption, and his new family adopted him a year ago. They’ve been wonderful — they write to me and tell me how he’s doing and always send pictures. It’s great.Here’s where I’m stumped: what am I supposed to write back? I feel like my lack of certainty about what they may want to know about is causing my letters to seem flippant. If you’ve adopted or think you might, what would you want to know about the biological mother of the child? — CG
As a birth mother in a very open adoption, I can tell you what we share. Our daughter is almost 10 now and she’s mostly interested in my life, especially as a child. I’ve sent them baby pictures, little blurbs about what it was like to be me at her age, etc…