Due to insurance complications, support, renting, and the steadily approaching due date, my husband and I have decided to give birth in the hospital rather than a home birth. We recently went through a birthing class through the hospital and were able to tour the facilities. The hospital has rooms that you stay in for all parts of delivery: labor, delivery, and recovery all in one room. They are equipped with tubs and are more like a birth center than the usual separate rooms used in other hospitals.
My mother passed away last month pretty suddenly due to complications of Lupus. I did not realize how much of a difficulty just being in a hospital room would be. During the tour, the guide/teacher began disassembling the bed to show how it is changed for different parts of labor and delivery, and I lost it. I could not help but visualize the death of my mom being connected with a hospital bed, no matter how cozy they attempted to make the room seem.
As much as I would love to have a home birth, at this point I would say it is just not possible, so I need to make this room seem as “homey” as possible. My husband and I discussed bringing in things like pictures and music to make the room seem less like one she died in, but I was wondering if anyone had advice on what else might be allowed in a hospital room to ease the pain of loss so recently in a similar setting? — Kristin