I have had a lot of trying times in my life, many of them within the last few years. We all have people come and go from our lives at lightning speed with or without warning. The following tidbits are things are the things that have always been able put me in a better mood when I’m down.
If you can do all of them daily — that’s great! If you can squeeze one in here and there — that works just as well. But honestly, the best time to follow any of these is on your WORST days, even just one of them. They are not easy, but they are not costly either; regardless the rewards you will reap will be endless.
Here are my five things that always make me happier…
1. Get OUT!
I know, I know, you hear that all the time. Vitamin D is good for you blah blah blah. But this is a really good thing to do, it really does work. Got a fifteen minute break or a lunch break? Take it outside — someplace away from the hustle and bustle. Get some zen time to just breathe in the air, and enjoy the sun or shade depending on your preference. And don’t bring your cell phone, or tablet, or anything else other than maybe your lunch with you.
2. Help someone else
You don’t have donate to charity or volunteer for a million hours. I get my best karma boosts and good feely vibes from just helping someone out. Just the other day I helped push a lady’s car across traffic in a busy intersection — alone in my full belly dance costume — and got her up and going again. I waited with with her for help to come because she was scared to be on the side of the road alone.
Instead of donating your old coat to a Goodwill or selling it off; personally give it to someone in need. For no reason. That extra half a whole sub you have? Same thing.
The possibilities here are endless really. You don’t have to help someone less fortunate, though it is nice, but just helping someone else out is stupendous.
3. Touch someone
We are HUMAN, we are social beings, and we have ostracized ourselves more and more especially with technology. I will be the first to admit, this is really awkward at first. I am NOT a hugging person. I didn’t come from a hugging family; we just don’t do that kinda thing. I married into a huggy family though, a large one at that. While that has helped, it hasn’t cured me. Ever meet someone a few times and go to say “bye” to them and have them want to hug you but hold back, then you kinda lean in for the hug but then shrink back a little when you seem them shrink? Just do it! Go for it, don’t be ashamed hug them. Hugs make everyone feel better.
Not ready for a hug? How about a high-five (that’s right we’re bringing it back). No wimpy high fives, put some enthusiasm behind it. Start small, pick one or two acquaintances you see semi-regularly and target them. Then work from there.
4. Take some time to meditate and philosophize
Practice meditating, I know it sounds all New Age and time-consuming, but it isn’t. Take 10 minutes out of your day and just take deep breath with your eyes closed and watch your thoughts and worries float away in little bubbles. Don’t think about the bubbles or the thoughts just watch them come and go without focusing on them (it takes practice).
Don’t have a space in your home where people will leave you be? Sit in the car in the driveway and do this before you go inside.
5. Make some history!
Sit down with family members, like your parents or grandparents, with a tape recorder or note pad and ask them about all of their memories, passed family members you may not know, times in history, your birth, experiences they had. Make it a day! Take them out for coffee or tea once a month and map out your family tree, with notes about each person and not just health concerns. Ask about everything and see where the conversation goes. Don’t make it a chore make it a conversation.
Do you have any shitty mood shifters? What do you do to make your day happier?