Currently, my husband and I live in my childhood home with my father. Every Christmas here, we do what my dad has always done: put up the tree, and decorate it with multi-colored lights and ornaments dating back to the ’70s. When I was born close to Christmas, my birthday became the day that our Christmas tree went up as part of our family celebration. Even after my parents’ divorce, it was like an un-written rule in both their houses that the trees went up on my birthday. The other tradition we had was that my mom used to spend the three weeks before Christmas baking hundreds of cookies to give, sell, and just enjoy.
As my husband and I dream and prepare to be out of my childhood home, we talk about starting our own Christmas and holiday traditions.
My husband is non-religious, and I grew up a semi-religious Christian who hates commercialized Christmas. I want things to be simple and embrace the spirit of giving, sharing, and love because I feel that’s what this holiday should be about.
We consider things like, “maybe we won’t put up a tree at all and just display a few of the decorations we have collected over the years… Or we’ll make Christmas brownies instead of cookies… Maybe even once every five years skipping the holiday all together and going on a cruise…”
How do you reflect your offbeat selves during the holidays? How do you ditch the old traditions without feeling like maybe something’s missing?