What are your relationship’s job titles?
My partner Andreas and I celebrated our 15th hookupiversary last New Years. Next year will be our 10th wedding anniversary. People, we have been together a LONG time. I remember being 22, already chewed up and spit out by two dysfunctional long-term relationships, feeling like I was already so old and jaded and damaged. (Oh, sweet baby Ariel! Adorable!)
15 years later, we’ve had a lot of time to figure out what works best for us in our relationship. About five years in, we realized that our relationship responsibilities generally fell into these job titles:
I was the Director of Logistics. He was the VP of Emotional Support.
Sarah & Joseph: From welding wedding to renovating and communicating
When we got married, Joe and I each owned and lived in separate houses. After the wedding, Joe moved into my house, and we began making renovations to his in order to sell it. Lo these three years later, it is almost ready to put on the market. We are also planning to put an addition on the house we live in now.
Claire & Bobby: From puppet wedding to living an improvised life
Hello everyone! Thanks for asking for a follow up. It’s been a packed five years. We’ve both found jobs that we love. I competed in an Iron Girl triathlon. Bobby still makes puppets. I even became a regular improviser (I make up songs!) at ImprovBoston with my husband and Dana Jay Bein, our male flower girl.
Naomi & Casey: From punk rock wedding to rock ‘n’ roll lifestyle
Since we were married, we’ve been playing in rock ‘n’ roll bands, recording rock ‘n’ roll bands, taking lots of pictures, playing with our bulldog, Doodah, changing our hair color, getting tattoos, fixing motorcycles and liking each other a little bit more each year.
Samantha & Steven: From gothic wedding to Horror-themed home life
To be quite honest, since our wedding, we have been living the normal everyday life! We have both focused a ton on our work and trying to advance our careers as well as customizing our house to our own style. Our house includes a Disney Haunted Mansion-themed living room, a Bates Motel bathroom, and a Horror-themed family room (to name a few). As for right now, we are so thrilled to announce that we are expecting a baby girl in December!
Lara: From Medieval-inspired handfasting to separating, and learning to start over
Wow, where do I start! If anyone had told me, three years ago, that this is how things would end up, I’d never have believed them, but there’s only one constant in life and that is change. I suppose I had what you might consider a small, early, mid-life crisis.
You are your own shareholders: How quarterly relationship meetings strengthen our marriage
My husband and I recently celebrated three months of marriage. The perfect way for a programmer with a mind for finance and an accountant to augment the occasion was, of course, a quarterly meeting. It may sound crazy, but this is our first step in always making our marriage a priority. Here’s how quarterly meetings foster open and honest communication while strengthening our relationship…
Dana & Sheldon: From BBQ fountain to house fires and big changes
You might remember Dana and Sheldon as the librarian couple with the BBQ fountain at their wedding. Let’s check in with them now that three years have gone by, and they’re rebuilding their home after a house fire!