I loveloveloooove my big wonderful blended family, but I get weary of the conclusions people jump to looking at us. I am a Filipina American cis woman that was predominantly raised by my English stepfather (the only father I’ve known). I have two half-siblings. After my mom died, my dad remarried another Filipina woman with two daughters. SO, I technically have a stepfather, stepmother, two half-siblings, and two step-siblings. Also, because we’re both Filipina, I look more like my stepmother.
That’s a whole lot to explain, but sometimes people jump to conclusions that downright offend me — sometimes they feel like micro aggressions. And sometimes it feels too harsh to correct people referring to my stepmom as my mom, but I also want to honor my mom’s memory. (Whew, that’s a lot!)
Anyone else out there with wild and wonderful families that have found a way to navigate the murky waters of introductions/family-of-origin stories? -Kristin L.
How do YOU introduce your complicated family?