When is saving money more important than living in a great place? #Budget#Neighbors & Hoods#advice#California#money#neighborhood#portland#urban Updated Mar 3 2017 (Posted Feb 21 2014) Megan Finley Horowitz meggyfin Offbeat Home & Life runs these advice questions as an opportunity for our readers to share personal experiences and anecdotes. Readers are responsible for doing their own research before following any advice given here... or anywhere else on the web, for that matter. By: Aaron Parecki – CC BY 2.0 I live in the wonderfully offbeat city of Portland, right in the thick of things. I love where I live, like LOVE LOVE where I live. I can walk anywhere I could possibly need or want, and our apartment is adorably vintage. My husband quite possibly loves it even more than I do.Problem is, I'm about to have to take a major pay-cut to intern for grad school. We'll be losing a big chunk of income that, up until now, we've been putting towards paying off my husband's student loans. We'll still make ends meet, we just won't really be able to save much. It seems more financially responsible to move, but it's good for our souls to live here. All that to say, when is saving more important than living in a great place? -BigCityStudent This is a struggle with which I am very familiar. I'm a born-and-raised Los Angeleno, and boy do I pay out the nose for it! But since I want to live near all my best friends, that guy I married works in "the industry," and I'm just generally happy in my hometown, we "get by" instead of "thrive." Is it worth it? My answer: sometimes yes, sometimes no. It's worth it when I get to go on an evening hike with my best friends on a moment's notice, and watch the sunset over the twinkling lights of a big city. It's not worth it when I realize that I'll never be able to afford a home anywhere in that big twinkling city. It's worth it when I can take a relaxing beach day in January. It's not worth it when it takes me almost two hours to drive the 10 miles back home. Related Post The lie sold to young wanna-be urbanites I was 21 years old when I moved to San Francisco. I was a glamorous big-city girl and I was ready to LIVE THE DREAM!... Read more I look at expensive city living like a lifestyle tax. As long as I'm not going broke, and it's not having a negative impact on my family, then continually "getting by" is the price I'm willing to pay… for now. What about you guys? How do you balance the idea of saving money with the desire to live in an expensive city? Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Megan Finley Horowitz When Megan's not writing, traveling, and sleeping, she's eating like the fate of the world depends on it. (You're welcome, world!) You can snoop into her personal life over on her website The Dash and Dine! @meggyfin @thedashanddine @meggyfin PREVIOUS Why fostering animals is worth the emotional pain NEXT Bloomers and Frocks: How I quit my day job to pursue my love of vintage and run an Etsy shop full-time Show/Hide comments [ 71 ] I agree — having moved from a city I love (Richmond, VA) to a more rural city a few hours away in which my job is great but I am *miserable*, if you think where you are is good for your soul, do your soul a solid and stay. I've found I'm a person who gets tied to the concept of place, and belonging, and I really value living in a city where I feel like everybody is *invested* in its awesomeness. I don't have that anymore, and I feel…bereft. The cost of living here is great, but….the unintended consequence of moving here became that my over-educated husband has had a *time* finding even a grocery store job. Where in our old city, having higher degrees didn't make you unusual and a flight risk because EVERYBODY had them and was taking what they could get, here….it's a red flag that you won't fit in, that you're a flight risk, and you get passed by. So while the cost of living is better….we make less now than we did then, even though the job we moved for (mine) pays more than my old one. Head, meet desk. So….if you're happy, be happy getting by rather than thriving someplace where your soul might suffer. Reply Okay, so you can afford to keep living where you're living. You won't go into debt. You'll be able to keep paying off debt. You just won't be able to save. Then think about what you want to save FOR. Are you trying to save up for a major trip? Having kids/adopting? Retirement? Financial security? Only you can decide if what you're saving for is worth what you're giving up, but really focusing on the things you want in the future can help you decide what to do in the present. If your goal of adopting four Haitian orphans is more important to you than where you live, move and save. If you're just saving because it's what you should do, then weigh that against your happiness. I would always, always encourage people to save, but you have to balance your life. Living for the future isn't a great way to live all the time. And before you make any major changes, reevaluate your numbers. Is there anything you can do to boost your income or lower your expenses? Do you have a hobby you can sell on etsy for an additional hundred a month? Would walking dogs in the morning before you go to the internship be an option? On a personal experience note, I moved from a town I loved for a variety of reasons, including money. I can't say I regret it completely, because I met my husband after I moved, but I literally tell him everyday that I miss that town. I would move back in a heartbeat. Reply I'm torn on this. I've always been one who thought it was better to live frugally than live in an expensive city/part of town because what's the point of living in that part of town if you can't afford to do anything? But, having recently moved to the outskirts of my awesome city (Austin), I'm realizing what a huge benefit it was to live at least near the downtown area. My husband and I never lived downtown, but we always lived within a 10 or 15 minute drive of it, and now it's 30 minutes minimum to get to the main parts of town (a.k.a. where all my friends live) and during rush hour, it's an hour and a half, so basically, we can only hang out with people on the weekends. For us, we have a kid, so part of the move was to be in a better school district, but it was also so that we could afford a bigger house. At this point though, I would love to downsize just a bit, get a little closer to town, and pay a little bit more in order to not be so isolated from the people I want to hang out with. So basically, my advice is see if there's a compromise. I know here there are some great little neighborhoods that are close to things, but not quite in the thick of it, but they have their own personalities and tend to be just a bit cheaper. Reply My knee jerk reaction lately is to lean more on the side of savings, but then again I just got laid off. I suppose it depends on just how much you are missing out on and what the long term cost of moving might be. How long is this pay cut going to last? If it's just a year or so, I might stick it out. You have a great place now, and there's no guarantee you'll be able to get back to it or a similar place once your income is back up. At the same time, if the pay cut is going to last longer and you'll be loosing out on more money it might be wiser to put yourself in a position to save. Also, don't underestimate your (potential) new surroundings. You can make the most of any area. Even if it isn't as hip as where you live now, there might be some hidden gems you could find there. Reply This, this, this. If I'm reading this correctly, this specific question is about moving to a different neighborhood in the same city/area. So, if the pay cut is short-term, and you'll be able to make ends meet, stay. You love your apartment, and moving back might not be simple/possible. There are also costs to moving, even in the same city (actual moving costs, first/last/security deposit to a new apartment?) that might not make it worthwhile if you thought you'd want to move again in another year or two. But, if the pay-cut isn't short-term, or you have concerns about getting the next job, or wouldn't be able to make ends meet, or have plans for your savings that you value more than where you live, then I would look into moving. Reply This is a great question. I don't know that I have a good answer. My husband and I just bought a house in the city we both grew up in/near. We are not by any means miserable, but we feel there are other places we would maybe fit in better, or find more people who we have things in common with. HOWEVER–the cost of living here in Southwest MO is excellent…we have both been at our jobs long enough that we make decent money and have plenty of vacation time. That allows us to have extra money and time off to take trips that let us enjoy the things we can't get here. We have a plan (not on paper) to do some work to our nearly 100-year-old house and save up some money and look at moving in the next 5 or so years. Sometimes we're like, "it's not so bad here…" and others we're like, "Ugh! I need to be somewhere with a music scene/more open minded people/whatever!" So, I guess the thing you have to think about…could you sacrifice now to have more later? I don't know everything about your situation, but maybe the decision could be made by thinking about where you want to be in a few years. That being said, there are few things worse than living somewhere you're miserable. BUT–if you need to save for a future goal or something, then maybe that can be the light at the end of the tunnel if you end up having to move to a less-than-desirable place. Reply Based on my experiences I'd say that even if you think you might be homesick, go. When I was 22 I left DC to live in a small town in the Midwest. It kind of blew -everyone's- mind for some reason. But, I wanted a change, to attend a state university (not art college) with an illustration program, and save money while doing so. In the long run I was miserable and constantly heartsick for DC. However! I met lifelong friends with values and perspectives that even multi-cultural DC rarely demonstrates. Folks who grew up with a slower pace of life and demonstrated more interest in communities than I ever been exposed to. My heartache launched some of the best art of my life. I saved a lot of money and began to understand the differences in economy throughout our nation. Hunting down venues and activities in a small town that was decidely "onbeat" opened my eyes to what I might have missed at home. For you it seems there's several reasons to stay, and several to move. I don't know if going beyond comfort zones or trying new things is something you're looking for. If it is, then take this chance! It can be just as fulfilling as your current situation. I left looking for personal growth through change of environment and I reminded myself to learn from every moment I found myself wishing for DC. It also helped me to return to my city with a fresher look and greater appreciation. Reply This is exactly the question my husband and I are balancing right now, just in the "other Portland!" We're erring on the side of saving, but being as close to the city as possible. We've set up parameters of how far outside of town we're willing to live, and if we can't find a place (we're looking at buying) that we can truly afford, that we love, and is within those parameters, we're just going to keep renting in or near the city. It's all about what threshold of risk you are comfortable living with. Our bottom line is that our savings account needs to be fed each month. We've had too many layoffs/financial hiccups in the past 5 years to risk living in a place that costs as much as we earn. Good luck! 🙂 Reply I'm actually considering moving to Portland and am slightly nervous about the cost of living. Dare I ask, what -is- the "other Portland?" It has a bit of a magical ring to it! Reply The Other Portland is what we Maine-ahs jokingly call Portland, Maine 🙂 Portland, ME is quirky and small, but lively, full of art and theater, tons of great spots to eat, and expensive as hell to live in 🙂 Reply Funny, twenty years ago, or so, we used to call Portland, OR "The Other Portland" because it seemed like nobody outside Oregon or Washington had heard of it. Reply 20 years ago, every weekend Seattle would fill up with Portlanders who'd driven up i5 for events. Now, every weekend Seattle drains south on i5 to go to Portland for events. I thought for sure you were going to say the other Portland was Austin. haha Reply The cost of living is fine, if you're employed. That's the real trick. Housing isn't overly expensive, there just isn't enough of it. Reply Exactly! My new husband was laid off the moment he walked in the door after we returned from our honeymoon, back in October 2013. Save for some freelance gigs here and there and a healthy bout with temp agencies where the jobs are great but only for a limited duration, we are still struggling to find him work in Portland. Thank god we found a place to rent with a reasonable budget last year, which is another entire battle in Portland. For renters, the percentage of available housing is incredibly small. The market is very tight. I'll just leave this here in case anyone wants more info: (http://www.portlandoregon.gov/phb/article/467603) Our partners at Multifamily Northwest presented the Apartment Report yesterday, a bi-annual publication that includes rent and vacancy data collected from the Portland metro area and throughout the state. Data and market perspectives are garnered from appraisers, lenders, brokers, economists and developers specializing in the multifamily industry. According to the survey, apartment vacancy is down in the last six months, from 3.55 percent in April to 3.11 percent today. Meanwhile, rents are continuing to climb in this landlord's market. Market rate rents have increased on an average of 6.8 percent in Portland since April. Rents in older buildings have risen closer to 4 or 5 percent. This presents heightened challenges for those living in poverty who are already struggling to afford a home. Although we love it here in Portland, these two issues are challenging barriers for us. I wouldn't be surprised if we eventually try living in a larger city like Seattle. Reply As a native Portlander who moved away (grad school) moved back, had a job and was *still* forced to live in her parents' house because of housing shortages/rent costs, I can't second this enough. I'm moving up to Seattle this week with the promises of a short-term union job, and although it may be slightly more $$! I can at least FIND things that look liveable, unlike here. Without going into details, I recommend staying away from any listings with the final four digits of the phone number as 6911. (In seattle that is.) As someone who's recently moved nine (9!!!) hours away from city life to a country town in order to save money, "sometimes yes, sometimes no" is EXACTLY the saying. It's not worth it AT ALL when I'm having a low week and just want to go dancing with my girlfriends and blow off a whole lot of steam. But it's completely worth it when I take note of how much debt I had when I first moved here, and can see exactly how much I've paid off. It also helps me see "you know what. I've paid $2,500 off my credit card I wouldn't have otherwise. Fuck it. I'm spending $500 and driving to see my friends to blow off steam" is actually not a waste of money. Reply I've been from a tiny town all my life and I have to admit, I feel like living in a small place makes you keep partying a an arm's length. You can't party too often, but when you do, it's fucking awesome cause you've been saving up all your money and stress for it. Reply As a lifelong PDX resident, I hear ya! Living downtown is incredible. But spendy :S Can you make the commute from Vancouver? Houses and apartments are way cheaper there than downtown, but you can still have a bit of a downtown feel (as opposed to, say, moving out to Gladstone or something) Downtown is great but there's lots to love in the surrounding areas. Reply I lived in Gladstone for five years. Housing was way cheaper than being further in. But the commute sucked and you couldn't get anywhere without a vehicle. I always wanted to live close in SE. Reply Stay. Grad school isn't forever and I have come to believe that when where you are makes you happy, it forms a solid base that supports you and creates a domino effect that helps you succeed outside of "home." I've been considering looking for a new place lately, but I can see that giving up the house that I'm head over heels in love with (for all the reasons you mentioned), would make me sad, and being sad impacts all areas of my life. I'd move if I could no longer make ends meet, but right now, I consider this house integral to my future success. 🙂 Reply One thing to keep in mind is the full cost of living, not just the cost of housing. What would your commute cost now vs. living elsewhere? Can you get by without a car living in the city, but would need one if you moved out? How much further would you have to go to buy groceries / go to cultural events / see friends, and what would the transportation cost of that be? Are you saving money on groceries because there are lots of options of where to buy them when you're in the city? While other factors may not fully balance out the cost of housing, they're definitely something to keep in the equation. Personally, I would lean towards staying where you're happy and finding other ways to save money — but I'm fairly tied to place, and I really like my car-free lifestyle, which just wouldn't be sustainable outside of the city. What ways, other than moving out of the city, could you save some money? What ways could you earn some? Currently, my husband (grad student) and I (part-time undergrad, starting out as a freelance graphic designer) don't have a car, eat out only occasionally (the rest of the time we cook from scratch — dried beans are cheap, y'all), and live in a house with another couple who are really good friends of ours. These choices allow us to be living in a beautiful house which is ever so much nicer than the apartment we used to have, walking distance from the city core, in a small city we love to live in. My lifestyle (biking everywhere, eating amazing home-cooked food, living in community, living in a beautiful space) is great for my mental and physical health. I couldn't see moving out of the city and letting that go. Your equation will be different, but having a lifestyle you love can make a big difference to your mental health, and it's hard to put a price on that. Reply I totally agree with this! Ugh, if I had to move somewhere where I needed a car to get around, it would not be good. I avoid driving when I can due to some issues with eyesight, so I would quickly get pretty isolated and probably depressed. Not to mention the cost of the car, gas, maintenance, and insurance, and having to exercise extra to compensate for not biking/walking everywhere. Yesterday I was in a big funk from some stuff at work, which magically lifted when I biked home and it was actually light out! I had forgotten how much I missed it, and I wouldn't have gotten that mood boost if I were stuck in a car or the weather hadn't happened to be so lovely (thanks, California…even if it's impossible to find reasonable rent). I know you wrote all about biking in crazy weather, but I still love the feeling that I'm getting away with something living in a place that doesn't get "real" winter. Reply It is extremely common where I live for it to be more expensive to commute from the cheaper housing (by car or bus) than by living in a slightly more expensive apartment near things. In my own experience, my husband and I have just downsized to one car, since our daily commute to work is only 3 miles from each other. We save money on car insurance, gas and other car maintenance. We also really cherish our commuting time together. It's so much nicer to drive with someone you love, and see them off to work every day. Being on the same schedule is also pretty awesome for going out and doing stuff together later. Reply I was going to say exactly this. I live in Portland, so this is my experience here specifically. Moving into the suburbs almost always means spending more on gas, and frequently means needing two cars for two people. Grocery stores are further apart and may have fewer healthy options. Combined with less opportunity to walk and bike, that can easily lead to more health care costs. There are fewer free entertainment options, so rather than sitting in a coffeeshop and people watching, or a $5 music show, or the neighborhood park, you could easily end up spending more on movies, dinners out, pizza delivery because there's no good neighborhood restaurant, etc. Inner Portland has a LOT of financial benefits that simply aren't available further out. tl;dr Really sit down and look at exactly what you'd be spending more on if you moved somewhere with lower rent before you decide it'd be the more fiscally responsible option. 🙂 Reply I live in Maryland. Believe it or not for people not familer with the DC region, alot of people will commute 2 hrs one way to work in DC, even as far away as West Va. and southern PA or the eastern shore of Maryland (and even DE) or rent rooms in people's basement or when their kids move out and go home on the weekends to work in DC to "save money" over buying a $400,000 house when 2 hrs away you can get a similar size house 2 hrs away for $200,000/$250,000. Granted you are putting more wear on your car and life outside of work doing the commute, but people do it in DC/Baltimore area as well I am sure NYC, Chicago, and other large expensive U.S cities, maybe not the to extreme as the DC area, people it happens. But for some people it is worth upkeeping a car or replacing it every 2/3 years or renting a room during the week and the whole "Sleep, wake up, commute, work, commute, eat, sleep, repeat" 5 days a week for 30 years then buy a $400,000 20 mins from DC and have nothing else to show for it other than a large mortgage if that makes sense. Reply I live in Maryland too, but grew up in Michigan. I moved here for a job with twice the salary I was making in Michigan… but I'm finding that the cost of living is so high that I am still barely making it! My husband and I rent a one bedroom apartment for twice the amount that we used to pay for an entire house/yard/garage in a nice neighborhood back home 🙁 The commute is killer, we're so tired from sitting in rush-hour traffic that we never go anywhere and thus haven't made any friends. We like living near the ocean and the mountains, and we go hiking at the regional parks on some weekends. That's not enough to keep us here though, I think we're going to have to move back to the Great Lakes. Enough with suburban life! Reply This is such a good question. I would say STAY. Since you'll be able to afford the basics (rent, food, transportation, etc.), even with minimal savings, its worth it. However, I would think about ways you can cut your expenses, to boost your savings. Maybe you can become an extreme couponer to save money on groceries! Or maybe you can save some gas by biking/walking to work. Maybe you already do all these things, but I'm sure there are small ways you can change your lifestyle so you can save a bit more money each month. For me and the boyfriend, we're seriously considering a more expensive place to move to. Its closer to work and school, which means I can bike to work (at least from March to November!). The money I will save in gas is huge! So the money I'll save in gas almost makes up for the increased rent. AND this new place has a kitchen with more than 2 square feet of counter space (silly, but this is a huge driving point for me). Working out your wallet in a new way isn't always a bad thing 🙂 Reply I have to say, I had the opposite problem. A few years ago I was still living in Chicago, made a better-than-decent living, and had a gorgeous apartment with a fun roommate, but I still never felt "home." I quit my job and moved back to the amazing little city in Iowa where I went to college — I have never regretted it for a second. I am pretty close to broke, but I think making lifestyle adjustments in order to live where you can be happy and healthy is pretty priceless. Reply Me too. I lived in a big city for about 4 years, and I don't think I slept well the entire time I was there. After growing up in the country, my baseline for quiet and peacefulness is different than other people's I think. I loved being close to things like art museums and neat restaurants, but I was tired of being on the verge of broke from the high cost of living. I'm in a much smaller city now, sort of in a suburban-like area but still technically in the city proper. I am no longer afraid to ride my bike. The cost of living is much lower, and we've been able to build up a significant amount of savings (at least for being in grad school). It's nice to have the financial safety net for peace of mind. And I can sleep at night and have a dog. Reply You really need to ask yourself some hard questions, questions other commenters have already touched on. What are you saving FOR? Are you planning on needing money for something big soon, or is it the hypothetical "saving for the future"? You and your husband have to figure that out before you can make any other decision about your living situation. I can say that, for 12 years, I lived in the coolest, funnest city in my state. My friends were there, there was a thriving art scene, always something to do, and my apartment was literally a five minute walk from one of the most beautiful wilderness areas in the country. But as I got older, it started to not be worth it. I was working two jobs plus picking up gigs on the side just to be able to barely afford living in a space with roommates. The things that I wanted to do (own a business, own a home) I was never going to be able to do there, barring winning the lottery. So I moved, to a MUCH LESS awesome city. I mean, less awesome enough that I actually cried the whole drive here. But I've been living here for 10 years now and I OWN a home…as in, that fucker is paid for. I run a business of my own, and I can pay my bills doing that without working for someone else. The trade off (not having something cool to do on Friday nights, an art community that is pretty much stuck with watercolor studies of magnolia blossoms and 'Murican flag holding eagles) is worth it FOR ME. You have to decide if it's worth it for you. If your apartment and your current living arrangements are good for your soul, IMO that's worth more than money. For god sakes, don't plan your life based on the convenience of a creditor. You make less money, you can get a lower loan payment or even a deferment. Unless paying off that student loan is a big component of a five year plan that also involves living the life YOU want, don't make it a higher priority than your own emotional well being. Reply I am usually a big opponent of living somewhere if it means being stuck ing a miserable (for me) cycle of never having enough. I have lived in first world poverty for most of my life. It really negatively impacts me. I can't sleep, I eat poorly, I get sick, I miss work, I get poorer, I can't sleep…it's a nasty cycle of being broke. I grew up in a crazy cheap little college town. After bouncing around big cities and being miserable (and too poor to partake in the "culture" I thought I wanted), I moved back to my hometown and I have never been happier. My money goes twice as far, and if there's some crazy thing I want to partake in, in a big city, I can actually afford to go to there and do the thing. HOWEVER-this situation, for me, requires some sucking it up. It is temporary, it has a definitive end date AND you can still make ends meet. I would stay. You'd likely spend a bunch of money on moving that wouldn't make it quite as cost effective as it seems to move. Especially just to pay off student loans. They'll always be there….I would stay, but only since it's temporary. Reply Not to derail the comment thread, but may I request you (or others in similar shoes) write a submission on living in First World Poverty? It seems to be something we, as a culture, tend to forget, ignore, or just plain be oblivious to. Reply Or get told that it's not that bad because at least we live in America. I'm sure it's very comforting when one is hungry and cold to think about how great it is that our government pays to pave our streets. Reply Do you have to live downtown? I'm assuming that's what you mean by the "thick of things." My favorite thing about Portland (that's where I live, too) is that each neighborhood has TONS to offer. We considered moving downtown when we first got here because it seemed like it made sense — we wanted to be able to walk, bike, and take public transit easily and quickly to everything we want to do — but ended up in inner SE and LOVE it. Rent isn't as expensive as it is in the middle of downtown, and we're surrounded by amazing places to eat, visit, and hang out. Downtown is a 10-15 minute bus ride (even in heavy traffic it's still not too long), and the MAX is 10 minute bus ride away. We can bike anywhere we want to go in 10-30 minutes — with our kid in tow. I'm not sure if you've considered staying IN Portland proper but not just downtown to save a little cash, but it's been incredible for us. Another thing that's helped is not having unrealistic goals for how much we save. We're dedicated renters (we're not into the idea of owning a home), so we're not saving for a bigger place. Instead, we just put 10% of what we make, whenever one of us gets paid, into our savings account. Sometimes that's seriously like.. $30. Sometimes it's a couple of hundred dollars. It adds up, and it's there when we need to get a new bike, buy a month's bus pass, or want to go out of town. Up until January it was also handy if we had a medical emergency, but we have insurance that's pretty great now so that's not something we have to always worry about. Anyway! I just wanted to toss that out there. I love living in Portland and definitely advocate that you STAY, especially if being able to walk to places is important to you. I can't imagine leaving my area and moving to one of the suburbs just to save money at this point in my life — we're having way too much of a great time right where we are. I'm also not a big fan of driving unless it's a multi-day road trip, so I love that we can just drop what we're doing, hop on a bus, and be at the Art Museum or somewhere like in a few minutes. Like Megan said, I think as long as you're happy and you love where you are, it's worth staying. If you're able to feed yourselves and enjoy your city (and what's great about Portland is there's so much to do that's free or super inexpensive AND amazing), stay. Good luck! Reply I agree with Stephanie! We were renting in SE Portland too and wanted to go in on buying a duplex with my sister and her fiance. We looked everywhere and it really seemed like to be able to afford anything that we liked we were going to have to move out of Portland. That thought made me really depressed. My husband and I decided that we wouldn't comprise the location just to save money because we loved Portland too much to move away. In the end we did some research and found a totally affordable neighborhood in the North (St. Johns) and found an awesome duplex we all loved. We're close to downtown still and into the city pretty often, but we're discovered that our little neighborhood is amazing! It's like a little town within a bigger city. If you think a little outside the box you can still stay close to where you want to be without having to move into the burbs. St. Johns used to have a bad reputation so people are hesitant to move up here, but it's really improved and is still affordable. We were so focused on staying in the SE that we almost missed this little gem up here! Reply I love St. John's! There's a grocery store/restaurant there that has the beeeessstttt burritos. So good I had to leave a comment about them. 😉 Reply Are you talking about Proper Eats? With the NoPo burrito? If so then yes they are amazing 🙂 Reply I think this place is just called The Taqueria? It's a Mexican grocery store with a restaurant in the back, SUPER low key, super delish. I spent most of my adult life in places where the cost of living is relatively high. When I first started looking at apartments in my current location, there was a sort of "oh my god, so cheap!" reaction that made it feel fun and exciting to move somewhere where rent is cheaper. But that didn't last long. I moved for a job, which is no longer as lucrative as it was. In any case, my boyfriend is miserable here because it's so boring, and I'm pretty bored too (I just have less time to be bored with). We take vacations to get away to cities because the restaurants and cultural options where we live are pretty unexciting. So, if you are like us and will dislike living somewhere less vibrant so much that you end up spending money to "escape," then it might not be worth it to move! But it all depends on your personalities. I am also a big fan of the living-just-outside-the-city option. Or living in a slightly less "good" neighborhood. I lived relatively inexpensively in Jersey City for a few years – I had way more room than I ever would have had in Manhattan, at a better price, and I still had quick and easy access to anything I'd want to do in NY (and I avoided the higher NY taxes, so take that Brooklyn 😉 ) Reply I feel you. My husband has some serious wanderlust. That, combined with the horrible Midwestern Arctic Vortex we've been struggling with, and he's got the mindset of going "anywhere but here" because he feels so stuck and miserable. But I'm worried that he's going to want to make a drastic move, far away from our families or anything we know, and then we'll be stuck someplace considerably more expensive, and then struggle to make a whole new life. Oy. I foresee some serious negotiations ahead now that he's looking for permanent work after grad school. Reply So, some questions. How much are you saving? What are you saving for? How important is that goal? Will there be any debt from grad school? Will book and materials be covered? What if your computer goes kaflooey? What if one of you breaks a leg? What if your car decided to fuse its engine block? Will you have enough for emergencies without taking too big of a hit in your servings? What are the hidden costs of the move? How will this change commuting with its associated time (not just that it takes longer, but how much do you like/ loathe the time spent driving) and gas money? How deep do your community roots go in the neighborhood you're in? How much upheaval and stress is a move going to be as your getting ready to start your grad degree? Are there things you will love about your new area? Will it matter that you are in Portland if you are up to your eyeballs in studying? Will you have time to do the things to save money (home cook dinners, commute by bike, clip and organize coupons, etc)? Especially look at the (by no means exhaustive) list of non-monetary/ lifestyle questions. Those are some very important but intangible and subjective things that frankly, only you are in a place to answer. But they could vastly shift the equation. Responsibility is not always about dollars, sometimes it's about sense. Reply Excellent point about non-monetary costs! A lot of money-saving strategies trade time for money, and free time was not something I had in abundance during grad school. The tradeoff I ended up making was squeezing into a teeny-tiny apartment with a shitty landlady with my boyfriend and his roommate, biking about 20 minutes to campus (actually fun most of the time) and working my butt off as a TA. It was fine to do for that year, but would not have been tolerable long-term. Although the rent was incredibly cheap! Reply Suze Orman a few years back had a question like this from a recently-graduated student who was living in a more upscale section of Boston. The student wasn't really able to save, but she loved her neighborhood, could make ends meet and was near her friends. She suggested that she stay in the city because, while everything else was in line, the savings component can be temporarily deferred. She recommended, if possible, to set aside a rainy day fund to get through a couple months (which she suggests to everyone) in case the worst happens, but that, overall, the happiness in her situation was more important — quality over richness (in a sense). You're in a little different of a situation, but I think the advice would still apply. Since you don't mention what you would be saving *for* in your letter, I can't say whether or not it could trump the quality of life you have. But, in the evaluation of that, I think taking into consideration what it is you want to save for and if it'd be ok for you to defer that life event until the other side of graduate school will give you more insight, I think. Good luck, at any rate. It's a tough decision. Reply I live in Portland & moved from 20th & Hawthorne in the SE (the OP will know what I'm talking about) to a quieter, cheaper neighborhood in the NE 60's when money became an issue. When I lived in the SE I walked to all my favorite bars and restaurants, there was a pet store nearby and beautiful areas to walk my dog. I thought I would lose a lot of that convenience when I moved to the NE. While the neighborhood looks more residential it still has all the charms of Portland, parks and coffee shops, two grocery stores I can walk to, a dog park, several bars & restaurants in the neighborhood for 2/3 of what I paid before for THREE TIMES THE SPACE. And Portland has amazing public transportation, my old neighborhood is a 20 minute bus ride away, no problems there. Give it a shot! You can definitely find happiness in a less trendy neighborhood & extra cash in your pocket. Reply My husband and I have had this debate before, looking at houses. Like Megan, we're in Los Angeles… and we can either rent in our awesome neighborhood forever or move to a less awesome place outside the city and buy a house. So far, we can't justify leaving our awesome neighborhood. I think I would be too bummed out. Of course, LA is way bigger than Portland… so you can probably still be reasonably close to the parts of the city you love even if you move. 🙂 I tend to lean toward "happy" over "responsible," as long as the thing that makes you happy isn't actually HURTING you in the long run. As long as you can afford to stay there, (i.e., you won't be piling up credit card debt to do it), and it's not destroying some other long-term dream, then stay. It sounds like the pay cut is only going to be temporary, right? An internship doesn't last forever. In a year or two, you'll most likely have a higher salary again and can go back to throwing money at your student loans and saving. But definitely investigate your options. Maybe there's a cheaper area that it will actually turn out you LOVE. You never know! Investigate thoroughly before you make any major decisions, then do the thing that you think will make you happiest in the long run. Moving somewhere you hate to save money probably isn't worth it, but moving somewhere that's very slightly less convenient to save money might be. Reply There's no shame in renting a place versus buying a house. If you love where you are, stay there! Reply I have to agree with everyone who has suggested you think about the things that are the most important to you and what you can stand to change or go without when deciding if you should move away. I would love to live in a bigger, more culturally diverse city (the closest one to me is 'other Portland'!) but between the job market being what it is and the typically expensive rent of bigger cities, I'm sitting tight where I am. But, the thing I've decided is most important to me right now money-wise is to be able to pay off things and have a safety net. By living in a cheap apartment in a smaller city and commuting a little longer to work, I have been able to pay off my car, a student loan and all of my credit cards. To not have that debt hanging over my head means I can eventually get out to bigger cities and (hopefully) live in a nicer place. But if grad school is only going to last a couple of years and your current place makes you super happy, I'd say stay put and see where else you can save money or cut costs. Reply In your case, I wouldn't move. Moving costs money, and having just lived in Portland for two years, the rent isn't cheaper enough elsewhere (plus adding extra transportation costs) to bother with it long enough for grad school. Plus, at a stressful time of life like grad school, having things close-by so you can get to them quickly (which means errands take less time away from homework) and living someplace you LOVE (which reduces stress in general) is really pretty important. My partner and I just got a place at the top of our housing budget because it's just what we need right now. Management staff, maintenance staff, a management company which understands how to deal with things like service animals and disability accommodations, package handling, and an assigned parking spot. I walk a little further than I'd like because my parking spot isn't right outside my door anymore, BUT having checked out the street parking at night it's a better option. If I want the complex manager to open my door and bring my package to me on the couch, they will do that (they offered!!!). And, it's a 2 mile walk to my partner's work which means saving on transportation. There are some other nice amenities too like a hot tub and gym on site that are not really factors I will pay extra for, but all other things being equal are pretty nice to have. Right now, this is just what we need, even if it means postponing our wedding another 6 months. Reply I have some very strong feelings re: "Location, Location, Location," so I thought I'd share my experience. I bought a very beautiful, inexpensive house 40 minutes away from all of my friends and family and I've never hated anything more. Our house had limited-to-no access to freeways and as a result my boyfriend and I were extrememly isolated. We rarely went out to see friends and they rarely came to visit us due to the hour and a half of travel time. My relationships with friends, family, and most of all my boyfriend deteriorated and the both of us struggled through an intense period of depression. Although the house was so much nicer than anything I could have bought in the city we lived in prior to moving it became a physical representation of our unhappiness. Living in the new city made us miserable and as a result we were miserable to each other. I sold the house after living there only a year and a half and as a result I am much happier. I'm not sure I can describe the feelings of freedom and elation I had on the day that house passed to the new owner. Reply This is my fear. Those who know of my extreme home-buying lust often suggest buying a place outside of the city. While I would love a place of my own, living that far from LA would mean giving up all my friends. There's NO WAY anyone would drive to visit us. So… I appreciated hearing this. It makes me feel better about not giving in and moving away. Reply Home owning isn't all it's cracked up to be, either. Yes, you get a LOT of say and choice, but there is also a lot of cost implicated in it too. Out of curiosity, I put in the numbers for our house in Portland- my husband bought our home for $81,000 in 1996, and I guessed it's worth $205,000 now (maybe a bit more). That is the equivalent of a 5.4% average return – which is actually FAR below the % return he has had on his retirement IRAs in the same amount of time, and doesn't count 1. the interest we've paid on the home loan or 2. the additional $$ we've spent on repair, maintenance and improvements. If we had each started saving $225 a month and kept renting at the time he bought a house, and each made an average of 8% a year on it (pretty conservative over that time period actually) we would have saved $205,000 and been able to buy the house outright last summer. Kind of crazy how that math works… Reply Totally! And people tell me that all the time. The only problem is that to rent what I want — 2 bedroom, detached home, with a yard, in a decent neighborhood — would be MORE than a mortgage payment if I purchased something like that. And all that money going to some stranger!? Eff that noise. Hence, paying for my own hom is the only way I can stand to pay $2k+ a month on a property. Unless… I move WAY out to the boonies, and then it's not even worth living in Cali. GrumblegrumbleLosAngelesblahblah. 😉 Reply Not to mention what happens if you live in a deed-restricted community or a historic home or a place where laws can dictate what you do. People often think that owning means you can do whatever you want, but that's just not true. Even if you CAN do whatever you want, some places come with a lot of peer pressure from neighbors. Reply The hubs and I just had this realization about home-owning as well. We recently moved from Kentucky (we've both lived in either the Midwest or the South our entire lives) to downtown Seattle. Before we left Kentucky, we envisioned moving from our 1,000 sq. ft. townhouse that we were renting to an actual house. Now we live in a 300 sq. ft. studio and I have no idea when we will actually own a house. The thing is, it IS actually affordable to live in a city, downtown, even. You just have to know what to expect, and budget for it. We're in the same boat with you- we love love LOVE living in the city and we never want to leave. We just rearranged our priorities when we moved here a little bit, but I wouldn't trade it for anything. Reply Yup! Fellow LA-er here and this is so true. I don't want to own a house badly enough that I would move away from my friends and all the things we love to do in the city. We still wander around the totally fabulous neighborhood where we rent and wish we could win the Lotto so that we could afford one of the $1 million + houses around us, but ultimately I'd rather keep renting and be in a place I love than buy a house and feel isolated and miserable. Reply It's been a few years since I lived there, but there are definitely places in Portland that are cheaper than others, and it has a really, really good public transit system. Do you absolutely have to be RIGHT in the thick of things, or would trading your walk for a bike ride be a deal breaker? And don't discredit the less popular neighborhoods- for awhile we lived in St John's which is way up on the north tip, and yeah, it was a tiny bit of a hassle to get to some other places in town…but we had an adorable neighborhood one block away, a gorgeous park right outside our door, a great landlord, and our view looked like this: http://www.flickr.com/photos/alex_tinsley/4444259065/in/set-72157620965297401 and the rent was less than it cost to get a similar one-bedroom apt in a crappy, mismanaged complex on a highway down in Milwaukie (the suburb to the south). Reply Hubby and I are in the process of looking for our first home this year after renting together for 10 years in nearly every part of Austin. The last three have been in the heart of 78704, which has been a dream. Everything is so close. Parks, restaurants, downtown in just a few minutes. He hates commuting and loves his leisurely 5-10 minute ride to the office. Now we're spoiled and the neighborhood we love is more than double the cost to buy than anywhere our friends live. I'm so paranoid we won't find anything in our budget and will be renting do another year until we have a larger budget to work with. Then I think about about our long term plans and I just know this is the place for us for the long haul and can't really picture living anywhere else in town. Reply Haven't read all the comments, so this might be a repeat. What stands out to me in your post, besides the fact that you love, love, love it, is that you can WALK everywhere. Do not underestimate the cost of transportation if you move. Car maintenance, insurance and gasoline is a huge chunk of money. It might even equal the difference in rent. In other words, being able to walk everywhere equals money. Plus health. Reply I am in the same dilemma. I moved from Providence 40 minutes away to a crummy run down city when I met my husband. A child and divorce later were still here but plan to leave. I am miserable here, but if my son and I move to the city well be at least 40 minutes away from my parents and the father. I dont have any other family in the city but lived there for 8 years ad loved it and regret the move. Im torn. How do single parents do it with no family around balancing work and school and child care. I think I will be miserable if I stay here though. I earn a decent living so I could rent in a safe area but of course not right in the most trendy- I wont pay 1800 buck a month to rent. I too, am rethinking buying a home. Seems like all additional savings and time go into house repairs . Not sure I want the headache. I would rather have $$ in the bank to travel or take classes. Society puts pressure on adults to own homes and theres still a stigma to renting but is buying always a good idea? Sure, the tax write off but not when its spent in taxes and repairs. Reply Boy oh boy do I have experience with this! I was born and raised in Victoria, British Columbia which is undoubtedly one of the most beautiful places on Earth. I left 11 years ago to go to college, travel, etc. After being in great cities in Europe, living in Boston, Whistler, and the Rockies, I found myself in Ontario for university…not the sexiest of locales. The plan was to stay for only 4 years since I didn't really like it here…that was 9 years ago. I ended up in a long term relationship then met my husband. We ended up back in my university town which was the closest thing to Victoria in Ontario. We bought a house here and settled in for what we thought was the long haul. Last summer we realized that there was little room for either of us to grow here professionally and the cost of living here was too expensive. Although we got a steal on a GORGEOUS home in the "it" neighborhood we were burdened with almost $4k in property taxes, outrageously expensive entertainment costs, and a pretty expensive lifestyle. Because we want to have a kid soon, I started looking for jobs elsewhere where the cost of living is lower (hubby is a tattooer so he can work anywhere). I ended up getting a great job in the Kawarthas (anyone know the Tragically Hip song Bobcaygeon? That place) which is coincidentally where my Dad was born and raised so I have some family there. The pluses added up – lots of free entertainment being in cottage/lake country, cheaper houses, lower taxes, more doctors, less pressure to "keep up with the Jones's," which all leads to more money in our pockets for a kid and that honeymoon we never got to take. We were also able to buy a great house with a granny suite which we'll rent out for $1000 a month making our costs for the mortgage and taxes at a whopping $100 a month. That suite will also be used in the future for ageing relatives instead of putting them in a retirement facility. The process has also been freeing as we are moving from our 2000 sq foot place with a huge basement for storage into a 1000 sq foot place with no basement (because its the rental suite). We are purging so much stuff and selling lots of it too which is great to help with the costs of moving. We saw the financial freedom in moving to a smaller town. Yah there isn't going to be that awesome gourmet deli down the road, or that funky store to shop at but Toronto is only an hour away. Our trips to the city will not only be a great day trip but they'll be more fun now that we'll have that extra bit of disposable income to buy the good stuff rather than the crap. Even if you do move and decide you don't like it, you can always move again. Life is full of adventures – seize them. Reply The comment thread on this post is amazing, and it's good to know that so many other people have this struggle. My future husband and I have had this same internal argument about once a year. Breaking up with such a close-knit community of friends, local businesses, scenery and culture, would be devastating, but we can't seem to save a dime — and it's been 7 years! (It's funny, our pacific northwest community is awesome and expensive but PDX must be some kind of magical utopia. We have several friends who have moved there, are struggling, and will probably never return, for the same reasons you describe.) I'm no help, I'm sure, but I do wish you the best of luck with finding happiness for whichever choice you make! Reply I would lean towards stay. I moved from San Francisco to San Jose 7 years ago for grad school and to live with my then boyfriend now husband. I love San Francisco, but my husband can't handle all the people. The pros: able to afford to buy our own home, travel all over the world, grow our own food, have my own library 🙂 , plenty of space for guests, my dream kitchen w/2 ovens. The cons: we live in the less affluent area of San Jose which means we haven to drive everywhere. Our savings has been decimated by everything that could go wrong going wrong with our house. Our local grocery stores are just glorified liqueur stores, so we really have to drive for healthy food. We have become hermits because the little bit of free time we have from work is spent working on the house. I have gained 40 pounds, because when I lived in SF, I relied on walking, 80's dance clubs, and restaurants with healthy food options to stay fit. Once a year we go visit my husbands family in the UK, for those 3 weeks it's like living in SF again, and I feel amazing. I drop weight without even trying, both mentally and physically. So I guess in the end I would say stay. My husband and I have come up with a compromise, since Portland is not as crowded as SF he is willing to live there. But he has to find a job there first since my teaching credential is not excepted there. So for now I keep crossing my fingers hoping he finds something, while trying to reverse the health damage caused by my lifestyle here in SJ. Reply My husband and I have just been through the exact same thing in a way. We've just been through an expensive wedding and our first year with only one income (he's studying – for another 3 years!). Our landlord said she wanted to put the rent up by $30/wk (ouch), but we asked to negotiate because we loved living here so much. She said okay, and so it's going to go up $10 this year, $10 next year, and we sign a 2-year contract. Better for us, better for them. So, adding that up, that's an extra $1040 over the 2 years. If we hired a company to move all our furniture, that'd be $400. Carpet cleaners to clean our current place as per our contract – $200. Time to clean/pack/unpack, stress of moving, time looking for new places – worth lots. Possible increase in gas money. Stressing out cat having to move again. It all adds up. We looked at our bills and found we can easily knock off a good $50-100 month without losing out on much, so that also makes back that money anyway! If you really feel if where you are is perfect, look into all your options first before ending up being miserable somewhere else. Reply In San Francisco, rents/sticker shock is ALL anyone can talk about right now (seriously newspapers- stop it…didn't you know signing up as a writer for a local paper pretty much guarantees you a lifelong supply of cup o' noodle?). I feel for these folks, but where was the foresight on the boom a couple years ago? I have been wracking my brain for years on how to make more money, because city life is NOT going to get cheaper, and is already unaffordable for most people making under 3 digits. I was fully studying for the LSAT, picking out law schools (in desperation – I don't want to work 80+ hours a week), when I got serious with my FH and decided to let go of my sweet studio in the heart of the city, in favor of paying only half the price of the studio on a house in South SF (read: the fugly shitbox suburban Peninsula) with a yard, garage, huge kitchen, dining, living, plus an art studio for me and office for the Fi. While I have not invited friends to visit said shitbox, my cat and I are enjoying our space and I am stacking the extra cash to buy a house. I still work in city proper (about a 20-30 minute drive), and my best friends are dispersed on all sides of the bay, so it's no biggie to me. They would gladly come visit me – even the ones that don't usually drive (Zipcar is big here), but I am much more interested in hosting parties once I buy, and in going out for dinner and drinks in city proper for now, since I am currently deprived of having it all outside my doorstep (but honestly, I don't miss it at all – from the drunks yelling "Bust-er Po-sey!!!" at all hours, the ambulances, crazy neighbors, and worst of all, cockroaches…. I would still be eating pasta every night and handing over my whole paycheck to the landlord if I stayed in my old studio. Good riddance). If I were still in my 20's, however, I would have a harder time moving away from the epicenter of excitement, the bars, restaurants, farmers markets….SF has so much to love, but I am happily loving it from a bit of a distance now. Everyone's situation is different, of course. Reply Also – for those whose friends might have a harder time visiting you outside city proper – it helps to have a transit plan laid out for them (BART in SF's surrounding areas), and a cozy guest room (converted office or otherwise). I have a friend who keeps her guest room occupied very regularly, no doubt aided by the fact that she is an excellent hostess, and sets her guests up with a mini bar and basket of bedside treats catered to that particular guest each time. Who would have thought some chips and candy bars could make people SO happy to stay over? (Also, don't forget the mini disposable toothbrushes in a guest tray in the bathroom.) Truly, if people feel they can comfortably crash, it lessens the hesitance to venture out. Reply I don't know if I have an answer for you, but I am in a similar situation and feel the need to commiserate. I live in San Francisco and have since graduate school. I grew up in the suburbs of New England, went to college in the east bay, and moved to S.F. after graduate school. Now my husband and I live in San Francisco on the income of a public school teacher and an under-employed musician. We pay a little under $1700 per month for a two-bedroom in-law apartment with a little backyard and a washer and dryer in the garage, where we live with our two cats. This is sadly a crackhead, below-market rate deal in the increasingly expensive San Francisco. We live in the foggy, far-west part of the city, and I'm not sure if we'll every be able to own a home, which is more important to the husband than me, as homes here tend to go for close to a million dollars. One could say, and it might be true, that, with our tight budget, we don't take nearly enough advantage of the nightlife and cultural events that San Francisco offers and that's probably true. However, I love living so close to the beach and Golden Gate park and going running through them. My husband can walk or bike to work, I can walk to my cantoring job, and in general I can walk to the supermarket, the drug store, and other little shops in the area, and we live right along several bus lines. As I hate, hate, hate having to get in a car anytime I go anywhere, I love this arrangement. I'm also a reasonable distance from my friends. If we lived elsewhere, I worry I'd feel isolated (which I already tend to feel) and we'd have other transportation challenges. I do feel like we're paying through the nose to live very modestly, but given our career path, we wouldn't be earning much anywhere we lived, and for where we are in life at the moment, I'd rather be where we are right now, even if that means we're pinching pennies. Reply Your rent is lookin good! I just gave up a seriously janky under-market studio apartment on Divis for the same price and they bumped it right up for the next tenant. Rent on my house costs about the same in South SF (just down the coastal highway from you). If you're willing to buy outside SF, there are still homes for half a mil. Sad, I know, but doable. Try out the math on a mortgage, with 20% down (I know that's like $100k. Eeek!). I am determined to buy, so I figured out what it would take to save $100k in 5 years. $400 a week. If, as a couple, you can come up with a way to make an additional $400 each week, or save that together, you're in business! (Of course, in 5 years, who knows if anyone but millionaires will be able to buy within 2 hours of SF. We are asking for down payment contributions as our main registry.) Reply For me, I just chose a cute building in a good location over a boring building in a less convenient location, even though it was more expensive. I just left my husband, and needed to feel connected and good about my space. So for me the extra money for this place, even though it will make my budget even more tight, was worth it. For me, feeling good about my neighborhood and the space I live in is really important. It needs character. If you can find a cheaper place in a cute community outside of central Portland, Gresham or Kenton or somewhere around the edges, maybe it will be a good fit for you, but you live in the now, and have to feel good about where you live. Reply The said title is applicable because it is known for its flawless fashion and wonderful style. You could try Japenese sushi at Kabuki, classic Italian food at Santa Gula, maybe some spicy Moroccan at Agadir or splash out on some Spanish cuisine at Don Curro. Being formally a part of one or another empire they couldassert their rights for independence with arms in their hands. Reply Join the conversation Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published. 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