I’ve always said I wanted kids in a vague sense. My husband and I keep saying that we have to wait at least a year. We keep bringing up our “someday children” by discussing various potential house projects — we could create two extra bedrooms in our daylight basement, we have a big open yard for these kids, even our neighborhood schools are great! The idea is certainly there.
My husband definitely wants kids in a real, much more immediate sense than I do. I’ve never dealt with pangs of baby crack, but I do enjoy the company of children in certain doses. I have a toddler niece and nephews whom I love a lot, but I’ve never felt gooey for babies.
I realize that just about everyone who thinks about becoming a parent questions the decision, but I feel like I could be perfectly content to just be the cool, awesome aunt forever. Is there a point when you know that being child-free is truly what you want, and it’s not just cold feet? -Contented Introvert
I feel you on this so hard right now. I went from child free with a husband to talking about having a kid with my current partner. BUT! My feels about kids and babies haven’t changed — it still terrifies the hell out of me. And yet… something about it is intriguing? So like, what does that meeeeeean???
What I think we’re both asking is…
Homies that have been in similar positions, was there a moment that you knew, either way, whether you were just feeling child-neutral or child-free?