I’ve always prided myself on my support of free speech. While I don’t agree with what everyone is allowed to say, I do support their right to say it. My whole philosophy is coming under fire with my oldest son’s foray into the “tween” years.
Suddenly, I am very aware of the swears that pop up in my rockin’ tunes, as well as the veiled (and not so veiled) drug references. As he waltzed through the kitchen yesterday, I asked my ‘tween where he was going. “To get high,” he answered. My son is only 10 years old and I am quite positive he isn’t doing any drugs. I had the “drug talk” with him today, just to be sure. He does listen to music that talks about the alluring world of drug use and even the so-called “clean” songs he listens to often talk about, at the very least, getting drunk.
I do believe that the only way to “protect” your child from drugs, too-early sex, and other evils is to have an open dialog. But I am wondering if I’m sending the wrong message. I’ve obviously told my son to stay clear of drugs (he wants to be a professional soccer player and we’ve talked about how drug use would get him kicked out of the sport), but in all honesty, I didn’t steer clear. I also do not have an addictive personality, but my husband does, and we’ve run into trouble with such issues on both sides of the family tree.
So I guess, what is the right answer here? I feel like if I suddenly start coming down hard on lyrics and TV shows, that he’ll look at me like a hypocrite. Help?