My husband’s brother and his wife are having a baby! We are very excited as kids are great and we haven’t had any in the family for about, oh, 15 years now. None of our friends have had babies yet so this will be the first baby that we have been around for a long time. I grew up with a fabulous close family network and had great relationships and lots of fun with my own aunts and uncles, and I would love to provide the same network for this child, with myself as the auntie this time.
My brother and his wife are living with her parents, so I’m not sure how hard it will be to see the baby often enough to develop a close relationship as the grandparents will be the first baby-sitting call. Also because we haven’t had experience with children of our own yet I’m worried that they won’t trust us enough to share with any baby duties and will defer to the grandparents instead.
They live about 5 minutes drive away from us, so it’s not like distance is going to be a big factor. My husband and I have been trying really hard to be a connected family with his two brothers, but I sometimes feel that we’re doing all the work and they aren’t really into it. So how do I initiate the process of becoming an auntie and fostering a close family network? — Cinnamon Girl