My dad is continually trying to get me to go to church. And y’know what? Sometimes I actually go. Not because he’s going to save me (although it’s nice of him to keep trying), but because of the community of people he has there. They ask about my husband, and my fledgling opera singing career, and are generally warm and welcoming and lovely people.
As a non-theist pagan, I felt like I was seriously missing out on that fellowship and community that my dad has found at his church. It’s hard to find that when you don’t belong to a mainstream religion. Or if the local branch of the mainstream religion you belong to is full of assholes, because who needs that? But here are the options that may prove helpful if you feel like this is missing from your life.
Facebook is the way of the world, and if you type in your metropolitan area + whatever you identify as spiritually, you may hit upon an established group that you can connect with.
A little less shady than Craigslist, but still make sure to use good judgment about meeting strangers on the internet. There are a LOT of groups on there that sound seriously awesome.
3. Unitarian Universalist churches
If going the internet route skeeves you out, see if there’s a Unitarian Universalist church near you. They welcome people of all viewpoints, including Atheists and Humanists. They have a handy dandy church locator on their website.
4. Join a book club
If you’re not so much into a traditional church setting but want people to connect with who have similar views to you, try joining a book club. Check out your local library or the Google and again, use your best judgment about meeting strangers in dark alleys or whatever.
5. Events for your community
Keep your eyes peeled for events that are geared toward your spiritual beliefs, be it Pagan Pride Day, a New Age store hosting open meditation sessions or even Comic Con if you’re a Jedi.
6. Start your own group
Using any of the options above, you could start your very own group and find like minded people. It takes time and you have to weed through the crazies (as with any venture involving meeting new people) but it can be deeply rewarding if spiritual fellowship fits with your values and priorities.
In case you were wondering I have found my own group, and it’s pretty awesome. And now I don’t have to go to church with my dad anymore.