Growing up Southern as a lesbian late bloomer

When you're raised in a way that shields you from anything that's different, it really alters your ability to think outside of the small little box that's your world. Had I met someone when I was younger who was gay or bisexual, maybe there would have been bells and whistles going off and I wouldn't have been clueless for so long. Who knows? But I was blind for a very very long time. I met a guy who I married, had a couple of kids, and that's how the story was supposed to go…

…only it didn't.

1.0k

How do I break up with my church community while maintaining friendships?

I've been debating converting to Judaism for about seven years now, and I've finally decided to go for it. However, I'm pretty heavily involved in a Christian church community. Since it's a liberal denomination, I'm pretty confident I can maintain these friendships even if I tell them I want to be Jewish. But how do I nicely explain that I'm not a Christian and I'm looking to get my spiritual fix elsewhere?

1.3k

Teaching my kid about God as an ex-fundamentalist

"But Mama, what IS God?" Shit. I'm really not prepared for this conversation. For the majority of my life, I envisioned a future where this conversation with my kid would be welcome, and the answer given would be clear and certain. But the last half-decade has changed all that…

1.8k

I thought I lost my faith until I found it in my kids

It happened when I was 18. I was going to an all-girls Catholic college, and one morning — a particularly chilly late-autumn morning in Massachusetts — I looked up at the chapel, and I couldn't feel him. He was gone. It took a bit of adjusting. For 18 years I'd believed in him. To just stop, well, it was jarring.