I'm a father and I want to talk about parenting with depression

I'm sure other parents have gone through this, and it's not a topic we talk about a lot. Postpartum depression has gotten a lot of press in recent years (as it should), but depression impacts dads as well. As men, we tend to avoid these kinds of topics by and large; which is foolish, but that doesn't make it any less the case.

So let's talk about parenting with depression…

Hey "bad moms," let's give ourselves permission to feel competent

Since the birth of my daughter, I've found myself using the phrase "I'm a bad mom" a lot. It horrifies my husband, who associates bad moms with criminals, not ordinary women with ordinary flaws.

Think about your best girlfriend who is also a mom. Now imagine someone called her a bad parent. How would you feel?

Somebody said it to my face once. He didn't really know me, had never met my daughter, he was just a drunken dick in the bar where I work, but he said it, he looked me in the eye and said: "You're a bad mother." Let me tell you, it's one hell of a fucking insult, and we should never, never, say it to ourselves.

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My childfree friends are a balm to my soul: In praise of childfree women

I know the reasons that you're childfree are numerous. You may consciously choose it. You may want kids later but not right now. You may be grappling with infertility. You may be looking for the right partner or not sure what you're looking for at all.

I know that media and culture tells you that the clock is ticking. That motherhood is the ultimate feminine destiny; the next epoch.

But you know what, Childfree Woman? I'm a mom and I think that's absolute bullshit.