"I still feel angry and betrayed by my body": When breastfeeding doesn't go as you planned

At six months my son bit me while I was trying to nurse him on a plane, and I nearly threw him onto my husband's lap and said, "That's it, I am done." I went exclusively to pumping and supplemented with formula. To this day, nearly three years later, I still feel angry and betrayed by my body.

I really want all new moms to know that for some breastfeeding comes naturally. For others it is the most difficult, frustrating, and demoralizing experience in their lives. That coupled with sleep deprivation, postpartum depression, and life in general, and you can find yourself in an awful place emotionally, mentally, and physically…


“It must be twins!” Having a positive plus size pregnancy

I’ve heard of horrible things my non-plus size girlfriends have gone through while pregnant. And while I’m aware that every pregnant lady gets unwanted comments thrown their way, it seems like those directed at plus-size pregnant ladies is wildly different. Some of the comments can even make you feel like, well, like you’ve done something wrong, or that your body is wrong.

But I did have some amazing people around me while I was pregnant. And in case you don’t, I want you to hear what I heard…


Are there ways you can strengthen a relationship, pre-baby?

We've talked about ways you can get your body ready for pregnancy… And we've talked about ways you can get yourself ready for a baby… But we haven't yet talked about how you can get your relationship ready for a baby!

What are some of the ways you went about getting your relationship ready for a baby?


Mothering without a mom: I worry that my mom abandoning me will negatively affect me as a mom

There seems to be a lack of discussion in the world around women who are disowned or cut off from their mothers. The only literature I can find is surrounding the death of a parent and, this is so so different…

I have a mom. She is alive and well. She doesn't live far from me. But she considers me to be "dead," and wishes I could just forget she ever existed.

Now I'm pregnant, and the "mom stuff," as I call it, comes up frequently…


Balance for working parents in emotionally demanding jobs

After a particularly difficult day at work, I snapped at my 3-year-old over something minor that totally didn't warrant such an overreaction. As I registered the hurt in her eyes, I realized what had happened — I had given so much of my patience to my students that day, there was none left for my own child when she needed it. After a good long cry and some consolation ice cream (for both of us), I knew I needed to start being more intentional about my work/life balance if I didn't want my psyche to implode like a dying star of stress and guilt.

These are a few of the strategies I've put in place to preserve my sanity and ensure that everyone in my life—myself included—gets the care they deserve.