Balance for working parents in emotionally demanding jobs

After a particularly difficult day at work, I snapped at my 3-year-old over something minor that totally didn't warrant such an overreaction. As I registered the hurt in her eyes, I realized what had happened — I had given so much of my patience to my students that day, there was none left for my own child when she needed it. After a good long cry and some consolation ice cream (for both of us), I knew I needed to start being more intentional about my work/life balance if I didn't want my psyche to implode like a dying star of stress and guilt.

These are a few of the strategies I've put in place to preserve my sanity and ensure that everyone in my life—myself included—gets the care they deserve.

Learning to cope with a parent in prison

My mom went to prison for drugs, the first time, when I was seven years old. When my mom was arrested again, five weeks before my wedding, everything came crashing down on me.

I feel like it's something that's so taboo to talk about, even though (according to the US Bureau of Justice) over 2.2 million people were incarcerated in 2013. That's a big, big number for something that isn't regularly being talked about…

How young is too young to teach kids about sexual objectification?

Recently, some situations have come up which make me, as an intersectional feminist, question how to speak to my sister, let alone my nieces, about sexual objectification. How young is too young to teach kids about sexual objectification? Beyond that, has anyone got any ideas on how to break down sexual objectification for young people to understand?

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Is my offbeat lifestyle hurting my child?

In my town, like so many small towns, perception is everything. Thankfully over the years I've developed a thick skin. It didn't matter to me what these people thought… until my daughter came into the picture. Then the fears ran rampant: Will she be invited to playdates? Will she be ashamed of me at parent-teacher meetings? Will she get in trouble for her inherited penchant for dark artwork? Is my outward appearance going to ruin her life? Will she hate me and wish I was a little more June Cleaver and a little less Morticia Addams?

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Telling my Facebook-obsessed family I don't want photos of my kid online

As I consider having a kid, one thing I feel very strongly about is not blasting photos of them all over social media. Preserving my future child's privacy and right to choose is something I feel strongly about. But, I don't even think something like that crosses my share-everything-on-Facebook family members' minds. Any advice on how, or when, to broach this subject? I don't want to become that mom who bites anyone's head off who posts a photo of my kid on the internet. But I also want people to think before they post.