How I faced my fear of the dentist: If it works for me (and cats) it can work for you

I'm not just afraid of the dentist. More accurately, I have a "shut down completely, cry when I even THINK about going, prescription drugs are not enough to calm me, once made a dentist too upset to continue working on my mouth, trauma response-level" fear of the dentist. Until this past year, I hadn't been to the dentist in almost 10 years!

I was recently talking to a friend, who also has a fear of the dentist, and she asked how I conquered my fear and went to the dentist, not once but THREE times this past year. My answer was that I did NOT conquer my fear, but I did do this…

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Locate and log your joy: How tracking positivity can help with depression

From therapy I learned how powerful positive self-talk and mantras can be, but only if they are a constant part of your self-care routine. I already kept a journal to help let go of my haphazard thoughts, so I decided to add a few sentences each day to document the positive parts of my day. Ultimately, finding the positive in every day wasn't as easy as I had anticipated, but I pushed through and gained both a powerful new perspective on my life and some solid coping mechanisms that I could put into place…

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How I get over the guilt when exchanging or donating unwanted gifts

As an adult I find that I have a lot of guilty feelings over receiving gifts that I don't actually want, need, or like. Whenever I receive something that I don't really want, need, or like I revert to the my polite seven year old self — I smile and say thank you.

But now it's more complicated as I'm the adult who has to decide what to do with the unwanted thing…