I'm infertile but not defective: how our journey to parenthood is changing

I'm one of those women struggling with infertility issues. One: my age. I'm no spring chicken. Two: endometriosis — I was treated for that two years ago after suffering for over a year with crazy painful periods, and after my husband and I had been trying for more than six months. Three, high FSH (follicle-stimulating hormone) levels — it's taking more hormones to kick-start my ovaries and get them working.

All about one queer family's experience with IVF and making babies

The Story of Sadie sits on the mantle in Shannon, Allison, and Sadie's home. The book tells the tale of two adventurous queer women who wanted to make a baby together. It's far from a love story about one getting pregnant with anonymous donor sperm while the other massages feet and masters the art of Lamaze. They opted for a difficult yet decidedly more magical route: Allison carried Shannon's egg.


Self-care during fertility treatments

If you're doing fertility treatments, chances are pretty good that you're stressing the fuck out. Not only do you have the logistics of appointments and medications (and physical/emotional weirdness from said medications), but if you found your way to fertility treatments after dealing with infertility, then you've got the emotional burdens from THAT whole awfulness.

And then, as if the whole process wasn't stressful enough, then you have to stress about STRESSING, because everyone tells you that anxiety will negatively influence your chances of getting pregnant. Not stressing isn't just an issue of sanity — it's an issue of treatment effectiveness. AARGH!

So, that's all fine and good: DON'T STRESS. But how? How can you keep yourself calm and non-anxious during the mind-fuck that is fertility treatments?

Supporting the offbeat & subfertile

Recently, one of my dearest friends told me she's been having fertility problems for about a year. I feel really helpless and unsure of the best way to support her.
How can you be a good offbeat pre-auntie or uncle when things aren't going so smoothly?