I know that I can expect my body to change after giving birth — it’s kind of obvious to me that growing a human, gaining 30-60lbs, and then pushing a human out of my body will do that. But I want to know the nitty-gritty: how does your body REALLY change?
Throughout my elementary years I was a pudgy kid. By the time my lingering baby fat had fallen off I had learned to think of myself as overweight, unattractive, and lazy. I wore layers to hide my body, never went swimming in a group, and was a chronic dieter until my early twenties when I essentially stopped eating altogether. I eventually climbed out of that hole but here I am at twenty-six and I find myself feeling like that fat kid all too easily.
I’m not a mom, but I’m getting lots of practice while helping raise my nieces and cousins and by living with my twelve-year-old sister, Angela. Angela is on the cusp of puberty and doesn’t really have a parent to talk to — my mom sent her to live with us, and my dad isn’t much use for gender-specific troubles. I’m stepping up to the plate, but am being confronted with some sticky situations.
Before I got pregnant, I really didn’t like my body. I thought I was fat, thought I wasn’t good enough, you know… things a lot of young girls and women deal with. I gained weight and got stretch marks, and that sent me into a deep dark place of self loathing and despair that I wasn’t beautiful anymore.
I’m curious how other families feel about nudity at home. My husband and I frequently walk around the house in various states of undress, but now that our child is a year old we’ve been wondering when we’re “supposed” to cover up, or if we even need to. I’d love to hear how other folks handle this!
When I searched on the internet, my suspicion was confirmed — age and childbirth are the leading causes of varicose veins in women. They don’t affect your health, are painful for some, and of course, don’t look very pretty.
Jessica is a mama-to-be who’s not at ALL ashamed of her pre, present, and upcoming post-pregnancy body — and you shouldn’t be, either.