I’ve been dating my partner for about two and a half years and we’re definitely on the road to marriage. He’s very close with his family and they are currently planning some family photos with us and my partner’s brother’s family (wife and kids). They are planning matching colors and including me in the coordination emails. This isn’t something my family would be into, so I’m totally noobing out about how to handle it. Since we’re not married, it feels weird to be part of their family’s photos, especially when I haven’t met them that many times (they live in another state). I’m worried, in the very unlikely case that we break up, that I’ll be a sore thumb in the photos.
Is it cool to have them take the photos without me? Is that even something you could safely suggest or should I just shut up and get in the picture?
My current partner told me a story of seeing an ex’s family photo that had a sticky note over the face of her ex-boyfriend who had been included in the photos. So it’s totally a thing that people leave the family unit and become a sticky note. It may not be in the cards for you, but I can absolutely see why you’d be wondering about it.
But the issue is how to decline if that’s the right choice. When it comes to the future in-laws, it’s sometimes better just to go with the flow and accept the offer to be in the photos. You could always step out for a few photos of just them in an attempt “a comprehensive set.” You know, in case you don’t end up together they can swap out the photo. No sticky note needed. 😉
Fellow Homies: have you been in this situation? How would you handle it? Help a Homie out!
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