How an Offbeat Bride realized “the picture perfect relationship” is a lie

Over on our sister site, Offbeat Bride, we’re talking about something that EVERYONE in a relationship — married or not! — can relate to:

There were times when I just wanted to give up and walk away, broken. I felt like I was failing this imaginary test.

We’ve had our share of our ups and downs over the years, and always made it through. But somehow this was different, and we couldn’t get past it. Divorce was mentioned three times in that first year, and each time, it held a little more weight than the last.

After finally opening up to a friend who also recently got married, I found out they had similar problems: He pulled away, she got more and more upset, and the wedge between them grew wider. I couldn’t help but feel relieved that I wasn’t the only one; it wasn’t just me being horrible at married life…

We act out, and hurt the one we love most because we don’t know what else to do. It happened to me, my friend, and I know it’s happening to many other people out there. That’s why I wanted to write this…

Yup, rocky relationships, fights, talks about breaking up… sometimes relationships aren’t all sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes they’re not the perfect instagram photo of the two super-smile-y fuckers that you wish you could be. Guess what: Those super-smile-y fuckers aren’t perfect either.

Head over to Offbeat Bride to read the rest of We’re ALL struggling: How I realized “the picture perfect relationship” is a lie.

About the Author: Megan Finley Horowitz

@meggyfin @meggyfin

I'm a 40-year-old potty-mouthed writer with late-diagnosed ADHD and a shit-ton of anxiety. I live in my hometown of Los Angeles with a husband, a daughter I never planned on having, and a senior rescue dog. Anything else you need to know can be gleaned from my instagram and my TikTok.