Since we covered memorials for missing pets, I’ve been thinking about similarly not-completely-sad ways to keep the memory of a human loved one close. I mean, if you have a gigantor oil painting of Great Aunt Emma, that’s one way to remember her at her smiling best — but if not? How can you keep a memorial that doesn’t make you a sad panda? Here are four starters:
When I die, plant some asters in remembrance of me. Every fall they’ll bloom big and purple and fat bumblebees will crawl over them. So will praying mantises. I will be happy.
If your loved one had a stated favorite flower or an appreciation for one in their home, keeping these flowers around will be a drifting reminder. This option is particularly nice if you aren’t sure you can handle an all-night-and-all-day memorial — most flowers are fairly short-blooming. Even my nasturtiums, which are the longest-blooming flower I’ve raised, will be gone soon.
Just because you don’t know if they had a favorite flower doesn’t mean you can’t use this as a memorial, anyway. Find a bloom you think your person would have appreciated and cultivate it in their honor. They’d be glad if their death means you get a moment of happiness from a beautiful plant.
Use symbols in the entryway
Taking photos of home vignettes is HOT on the home decor blogs — take a page from this trend to make a pretty, not-heavy memorial in a place you use often. If your entry way isn’t well-suited to a small, pretty shelf, maybe there is a hallway or a nook or a space above your desk which you would see often.
Choose a few symbols of a person or people — rings, drawings, notes, memorabilia of what you did together — and arrange them together on a suitably-sized shelf. Using symbolic objects can help lessen the sting of loss — coming home to an assemblage of personal effects is much less jarring than seeing a photo every day.
Keep a book
If your loved one had a favorite book, add a copy of it to your bookshelves. You’ll happen upon it once in a while when you’re looking to reread the last Sookie Stackhouse book.
Make a donation
You might consider supporting a cause close to the deceased’s heart. This can cover a spectrum — maybe you find a Kickstarter project you think he or she would love, or maybe you buy a brick at the new town hall. Buy a cow for a family in the third world, or support your local animal rescue. And if you really want to bring the memorial home, tuck the thank-you note you get in the frame of a photo of your friend. It’s always nice to remember the good things we do because someone else had a positive influence on us.
How have you memorialized a person who’s passed in a way that helped you keep them visible in your life? Snap us a photo and share all in the comments.