I’ve noticed over the years that certain trends appear when I’m dating — at least when dating men. Here are the top five misconceptions about my bisexuality, that I feel I have to address…
1. I do not want to check out other girls with you
I can appreciate the beauty of others, however one common thing that happens in relationships, mostly with men, is “Hey look at her, she is hot.” Sigh, yes I am glad you think she is good-looking, and she might really be, but I am the person you are dating. I do not need to know about every single other person that you think looks good.
2. I’m not down for threesomes
I am horrible at sharing. Always have been, probably always will be. I also don’t like mixing. I also have not really had anyone I trust enough to do this successfully. I have tried twice and it ended horribly.
3. I am not going to cheat, with either sex
On the other side I have had guys be scared I would cheat on them with anyone. I would be hanging out with my friends who are girls, and if I was spending a lot of time with them, my partner would start accusing me of cheating. Just cause I am bisexual does not mean I am attracted to everyone. So cool your jets.
4. No you did not “turn me”
I have been asked during some relationships if they have “turned me” one way or another. I have also had arguments with friends because they said I was straight because I haven’t dated a girl in a while. Just because I am dating a guy does not mean that my feeling toward women disappears — I am still attracted to women, and I enjoyed the relationships that I have had with them.
5. I’m more than just my sexual preference
Stop using my bisexuality in conversations like it is a special talent. Yes I might make jokes about it from time to time, but I am just like everyone else. I am not going to introduce you to a friend and say, “Hey this is Bob, he went to UCLA for Marine Biology, and he is straight.” People of all sexual tendencies just want to be treated normally. It’s just a sexual preference; there are a whole lot more layers to this onion than just that.
Anyone else have more misconceptions to address?