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How a deceased fantasy writer helped me explain death to my 4-year-old

Death is a scary question. It is the scary question. It's your first real encounter of the inevitable as a child; the day you realise, because you live, you are going to have to die. Petrifying! I didn't want to dismiss it with the old Catholic one-liners that I was fed as a child, but I didn't want to traumatise my child any further with whatever half-baked, uncharted belly flop into the pool of hippy parenting my brain was feverishly trying to piece together.

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Why I send my kid outside to a kindergarten in the forest

It's winter in Georgia. The children waddle into the woods in layers of warm and waterproof clothes, awkward and round. The teachers' hats are pulled down over their ears and when they stomp their feet and clap their hands along with the songs and poems at morning circle time, they do so with extra motivation.

This is the hardest time of year to send our children outside to kindergarten for the day, and the most important…

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We are the future: Our post-millenial, Pagan, LGBT, polyamorous family

This is what our healthy family looks like, our core family that is. It Extends, because that little boy there holding a mask over his head has never ever known what the rest of the country lives like. Add to that most of us are gay, bi, or polyamorous. This means, when one of us has a child we have to definitely "redefine family."

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"He's not my husband, he's her husband, but we all really want a loan together": Life as a long-term polyamorist

I have been following the recent stories on polyamorous relationships, both on Offbeat Home and elsewhere, and saying a silent "hallelujah." I've been in a polyfidelitous triad (like a marriage but with three people) for thirteen years, but have never found the strength or the venue to start a larger conversation about long-term polyamorist relationships. But given how long the three of us have been together, I feel like I can offer some useful tidbits of advice and some observations on living a life that exists on the fringes but still in the mainstream.

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BDSM in mainstream media: Why I taught my kids about safe words

Kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina Aguilera’s Not Myself Tonight, for instance. Our kids are seeing it, hearing and some of them are even reading the book. I anticipate that the majority of learning on the topic will not be from me but they’ll likely see videos and ads, or hear things from peers that could use some context, and I prefer to be the person who provides that context.