Pregnant and polyamorous: On dating a potential lover while pregnant by your husband

My husband and I were a month into trying to conceive when we I peed on that stick and got the great news that I was pregnant. As we sat looking at the third positive pregnancy test, I excitedly and nervously thought about who we would tell first: parents, siblings, in-laws, and that fantastic man that I started dating… I debated and decided that being pregnant would not be a barrier to pursuing him as a lover, my husband concurred — but I wasn't sure if he would feel the same.


How do I decide to be a homemaker… and feel good about it?

I live on the East Coast. My partner lives on the West Coast. So far, the distance has been manageable. Here is the other catch: He was initially the one considering moving, but has incredible career prospects where he is living. One that will bring in enough income that I wouldn't have to work.

How can I reconcile my fears about becoming a homemaker?


3 secrets for learning the language of money in relationships

It's no secret that one the most contentious issues in many relationships is money. It truly does make the world — and our lives — go 'round. Money also doesn't discriminate as to who its issues affect; it influences partnerships between people of any age, race, gender, background, or income level. I'm by no means an expert on relationships or money, as I'm sure Dr. Phil and Suze Orman could tell quickly given the chance. But I am someone who's had to examine her own financial values in the context of her relationship. I've had to work with my husband to cultivate shared ideas and practices for our life together. The following tenets are a product of my six years of learning, compromise, and growth…