How do I survive current politics at family gatherings?

I'm headed to my partner's family's house for Thanksgiving. My partner and I do not agree with his family on political issues and I have a feeling that there will be discussions about the Midterms and other issues. I'm not sure how to handle them, if I don't just hide away in the bathroom and ride it out. Any advice for surviving the holidays with a family on the other side of the big political divide?

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Comparing my grieving process to a car crash

I'm not an expert on grief. I haven't read the self-help books. I rarely take heed of anyone's advice on how to grieve. Joan Didion famously wrote a meditation on grief that is equal parts beautiful and sad. She tells us that grief has no end, and that it's nothing like we expect it to be. She describes the "comes in waves" phenomenon, which nobody can quite nail down in words but everyone knows exactly what it means when it's said.

I can't compare my grief to ocean waves, however. For me, it's more like a car crash that you see coming but are helpless to stop — one that leaves you damaged and scarred, inside and out.