Category Archive

breakups

7 things I have learned about relationships (since my divorce)

It has been interesting, over the last two years or so, to be an outsider in the relationship world. The dust has settled on my divorce, I have had time to reflect on things, and it is so much easier to see certain situations from an emotionally detached vantage point.

How to handle awkward questions like “Why did you unfriend me?”

I’m planning a Facebook-friend cull of the people in my friends list whom I don’t feel especially close to. The thing that’s making me put off the cull is the fear of being asked “Why did you unfriend me?” as this has happened during previous culls. What do fellow Homies do in this situation? Do you ignore the messages? Have blanket statements prepared? Tell them the hard truth?

Divorce press release: How do you gracefully announce a break up on social media?

After several years of marriage, my husband and I have decided to divorce. He and I both agreed we should post something on social media, but we’re not sure how to go about it or what to say.

How do you get your sexy photos back?

I’m in the unfortunate situation of breaking off a long term engagement. I had gifted him some boudoir photos shortly after we got engaged. Now that we are no longer, I’d like them back but he’s not willing to part with them. Any ideas, thoughts, guidance on getting your sexy photos back from someone?

Tattoos, photo shoots, and lessons learned since my marriage ended

It was such an exciting time in my life, getting engaged, planning my amazing offbeat wedding and enjoying the day. Then I was thrown a curveball a year and three months after our wedding date… My husband came home and told me he wanted a divorce. The thing is, I have learned so many valuable lessons from this experience, ones that I would not have had the opportunity to learn if life had not unfolded this way.

Different last names: How do I make our family sound more coherent?

I am a divorced woman who will be getting re-married soon. Part of me wants my daughter and I to have the same name, but I also don’t want to be stuck with the name that is associated with such a crap time in my life. Since I can’t change our child’s last name to that of my husband, is there anything that I can do to make our new family sound more coherent?

My relationship and my pantry: why I don't need nicely-labelled canisters

My relationship vs. my pantry: why I don’t need nicely-labelled canisters

In shopping for the new place, I remember what I left behind at my ex’s: the pretty swing-top jars and canisters with colourful, perfectly co-ordinated labels, on which I used my best handwriting to label the coffee, macaroni, etc. They sat on the pantry shelf, a Pinterest pin waiting to happen. I was meticulous — borderline obsessed — with putting every package of food that came into our home into a pretty jar with a nice label.

I never thought an abusive relationship would happen to me

You never realize just how thoroughly your world can be turned on its head, how easy it is to find yourself willfully trapped in a position that you swore you would never get taken in by. I never realized it. This is the sort of thing you expect to see on Lifetime original movies, not in real life. Not in your life.