anxiety

How to reach out to a friend with social anxiety

I have a friend with severe social anxiety and depression. He lives with his mom now, doesn’t leave the house, and I (and all of our shared friends) haven’t seen him in about two years. All of our attempts to email/call/visit haven’t worked and he won’t reply. I know he’s in therapy, but I’d love to help him if I can.

Is there any way I can reach out in a way that would feel safe for him?

Want something better than 13 Reasons Why? Here's the show that wins in portraying mental illness

Want something better than 13 Reasons Why? Here’s the show that wins in portraying mental illness

13 Reasons Why was problematic when it came to dramatizing suicidal ideation and execution — in all it’s heavy and highly dramatized detail. I want to call out an alternative. A really good alternative and one you may have missed if you’re outside of the U.K. Here’s why My Mad Fat Diary is a much better portrayal of mental illness and suicide…

Panic attack chronicles: Don’t let your mental illness bully you

My husband drove us home in my car, sans groceries. I sobbed the whole way, shaking and panicking, and thinking “I’m such a weak fucking loser. I wonder if he’ll leave me. I hope he does — he’d be better off.”

But having panic attacks/mental illness doesn’t make you unlovable, or a bad partner, as long as you are being proactive about caring for your mental health…

Dealing with vacation anxiety (yes, it's a thing!)

Guilt, comfort zones, and buffer days: Dealing with vacation anxiety (yes, it’s a thing!)

I’m going on vacation! I booked a real, non-weekend-only trip where I’ll fly outside of the United States for the first time in 16 years. I’m so excited and grateful. But on top of that gratefulness and excitement is a bit of anxiety. I know, I know, get over myself and embrace the vacay. I plan to, but I still need to deal with a few latent fears and anxieties that I know some of y’all are also feeling about vacation.

Here’s how I’ll be handling vacation anxiety…

The scarcity trap: How sugarcane farmers helped me understand my obsession with becoming a parent

I’ve found some relevance in articles and incredibly personal accounts of pregnancy loss, infertility, grief, and/or anxiety. But it wasn’t until listening to this Hidden Brain podcast from NPR — The Scarcity Trap, Why We Keep Digging When We’re Stuck in Hole — that I found an unlikely solidarity with the experience of sugar cane farmers in India.

The perpetual anxiety of never knowing if my job will be abolished: How I deal with job insecurity

Guys, I’m currently working my dream job. It’s awesome. But the very existence of my job is dependent on outside factors, and is re-evaluated every six months. The last year in particular has been really really uncertain; I’ve kept my job, but just barely. The next evaluation is looking very grim.

I’ve found ways of dealing with the perpetual anxiety of never knowing if my job will be abolished. Maybe these tips can help others with job uncertainty, like me…