Being a mom isn’t my most interesting feature
I love being a mother. I love my son. But he’s just a portion of my life and (no offense, sweet Tavi) not even the most interesting portion. Sure, he’s my highest priority — but so is breathing, and I don’t introduce myself by saying, “Hi, I like air!”
I thought I didn’t want to have a kid… until I realized I do
I’m a perennial University student of literature and philosophy; a vegan, tattooed traveler who, being aunty to six terrific nephews and nieces, felt that I was surrounded by enough kid-love to forgo cooking up any of my own…until now.
Sanctimommy vs. Discombobumom
It feels like many of us deal with an odd schism in our motherhood identities. In myself and the mothers around me, I feel like I see two darker halves lurking behind the awesomeness.
Do I have to have a birth plan?
Birth plan, smirth plan. Jess understands the reason behind them, but feels like she can do without — what do you think?
Biracial lesbian seeking known donor of color
At the beginning of my journey, “brown” was at the top of my list. I wanted, as much as it was (im)possible to control, to have a baby with whom I shared a skin color. I have struggled with this desire for a brown child on and off the entire first year of my search for a known donor.
I had a miscarriage, and I’m surprisingly ok
When I did a search about not being depressed after a miscarriage, I shouldn’t have been surprised that I didn’t find much. No one wants to be judged for not feeling the way she’s “supposed” to feel. But you know what? I really am feeling just fine.
Avoid undergarments, and six other advanced thrifting methods
My best advice for thrift store shopping: KNOW YOURSELF. Don’t get shit just because it’s cheap, and don’t look at stuff that’s never going to fit.
Our genderqueer family has a lesbian Dad
Many genderqueer parents pick alternative names for their parental role — nothing felt right for my partner, so we’re using Dad.