Jenna & Trevor: From tree-hugging wedding to baby-hugging parents
Hello friends! Since Trevor and I said our wedding vows, I was a kindergarten teacher, then became unemployed, then became a photographer, then became a more-than-full-time-photographer. Trevor has been working away at the University where he’s employed. OH, and we adopted the most adorable baby boy!
Luke & Suzanne: from Muppet wedding to writing and grad school
The past three years for us can be summed up in one word: writing. I finished my doctorate at USC, recently accepted a job as an Assistant Professor of Film and Media Studies at ASU, and I’m working on my transforming my dissertation into a book. Luke was accepted to the Clarion Writers Workshop last summer, and has been writing his first science fiction novel. Personally, things remain pretty much the same as pre-wedding. The bliss is now officially categorized as “marital,” but we’re still living in Echo Park with our cat, Penny, and getting into spirited debates about all things geek culture.
How to make the breaking up and moving out process as respectful as possible
I’m breaking up with my partner of four years (cohabiting for two) and we’re moving into separate spaces. How do I make the breaking up and moving out process as (relatively) painless and respectful as possible? Is there even a way?
Trisha & Matthew: from DIY wedding to dream jobs that actually aren’t
We’re adding a new series on Offbeat Home & Life called “Where Are They Now?” where we catch up with the couples from Offbeat Bride profiles past. First up is Trisha & Matt whom you may remember from their adorable DIY wedding in California.
Ask Me Anything: I’m a young widow now remarried
Whether it is about being a young widow, loss of a loved one, moving on after a relationship ends, survivor’s guilt, the paperwork of death, how to help a loved one who is going through a loss, when support will be most well-received by the grieving, or even how dating in my early thirties was different than in my early twenties, ASK ME ANYTHING!
Blending work, home, and marriage: How to work with your spouse
I finally finished my PhD and found myself at a loose end. My husband Jamie was wrapping up his own project and he made a proposal: why not work on an iPad word game idea together? So in a week we had a working prototype and we thought hey, this could work; we can always quit if it doesn’t. That first week of working together gradually became months as our daily lives melded work, home, and marriage. Along the way I learned a few things, through trial and error, that made working with a spouse easier…
Comparing polyamory to nigiri: Coming-out as polyamorous
Being polyamorous often involves a decision of when, or if, to come out. In my years of coming out as poly, I was surprised to find that making “I am poly and have two partners” come out of my mouth wasn’t the hardest part. And it’s not watching the person’s brain explode in reaction to my perceived fairy-floaty woo-woo liberal (in so many ways) relationship status. No, it gets tough when they respond.
How we’re renegotiating our marriage with our yearly “relationship summit”
For our anniversary we have our “relationship summit” or our “State Of The Union” address, where we renegotiated our marriage each year. We talk about where we are and what we want and if changes need to be made. But what’s more important is the time when we come to “I want to stay married to you for another year.” Here’s how it works…