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Dancer’s Flame by Jasmine Silvera

Bad Romance part 3: Demanding greater diversity in who gets a happily ever after in romance

One of the big success stories in self-publishing is romance. According to popular platform Smashwords, the genre dominates the market. With a few clicks any writer can become an author. Which makes it possible that a novel most major publishing houses and quite a few small presses would have turned down, one that hasn’t seen an editor’s red pen, or even a proofreader will wind up on Amazon more than in other genres.

There’s an argument for gatekeepers, right? Not so fast. Here’s part three in this series on romance as a genre…

Fetishist or enthusiast? Musings on perceptions of corsetry and identity

What interests me is the dichotomy. Some eschew the word “fetishist” because of the associated stigma. Others instead enjoy the term for the same reason — flying their freak flag high and proud. I can see both points.

How do you identify as a corset wearer? Enthusiast, waist-trainer, fetishist, maker, hobbyist, tightlacer?

I will not teach my daughter how to avoid being raped

I cannot teach her this lesson for a simple reason — my daughter cannot avoid being raped, because being raped is not something the victim holds any control over. To teach her that she can avoid being raped, makes a fraction of the responsibility of being raped owned by her. My daughter owns none of this risk. Instead, will teach her this…

Gay, straight, furries & Benedict Cumberbatch: My top 5 favorite sexy comic blogs

We’ve talked about sexy books before, but I don’t think there was ever a sexy comic blogs round-up. Since we all need a good online porn comic from time to time, here are my favorite. There is a metric ton of adult content out there, but I’m aiming for smut which pictures positive, consensual, fun sexy times, and stays clear of the usual pitfall of classic porn (sexism and woman degradation, I’m talking about you).

How Je Joue can help you find your G-spot

Right now, Je Joue is currently running a promotion on their g-spot toy, the G-Kii — it’s marked down to $99 for their summer sale. In honor of that sale, here are 5 things Je Joue wants you to know about finding your g-spot with the G-Kii…

Finding a Dominant/submissive play partner

“I’m in a relationship where my partner is not interested in BDSM, but I am. My partner has decided that they’re okay with me going to someone to help me with my needs. The problem is I don’t know how to do this!”

I can help! First we’ll talk about what to consider before engaging in a BDSM relationship, and then we’ll talk about finding one.

Stash your sex toys (but remember where the hell you put them)

We already talked about ways to hide your sex toys in plain sight by using household objects and even exercise equipment. This is great advice… except for if you’re living with parents or roommates and you don’t want to repurpose stuff they use! Living together will mean we know where things are, but we’ll still want to hide our very-obviously-for-sex equipment. Let’s take a look at some options for discreet and designated stashing!

Thoughts on deciding whether or not to tell your kids you’re a sex worker

Back when I worked as a stripper, I was just about as out-and-proud as they come. I wrote a blog about stripping under my real name. I cofounded a magazine by and for sex workers. I found community in the sex worker rights movement. But when I gave birth to my daughter two years ago, I began to wonder if I should shut up about my years in the sex industry.