As part of my Offbeat Ada’s series of author events here in Seattle at Ada’s Technical Books, I’m hosting a discussion with Mandy Len Cantron, author of a book called How To Fall In Love With Anyone. This book is an expansion of Mandy’s NY Times Modern Love column which was insanely popular — if you were using the internet in 2015, you probably read it.
These events are super fun — I sit down with the author, and while always start with me asking them questions about the book and their work, inevitably we end off on elaborate multi-disciplinarian tangents. We’ll start with the cultural narratives around love (I have questions about Broad City!) and then get into some social psychology, history, intimacy exercises, and the weirdness of having a relationship in the public eye. Have a cocktail and go down the rabbit hole with us!
Tuesday, Feb 20 2018 from 7 PM – 9 PM
Doors at 6pm if you want to come have a drink with me and Mandy! (Also, I heard a rumor that Carrie Jenkins, author of What Love Is: And What It Could Be, will be there too?)
The Lab at Ada’s Technical Books
425 15th Ave E, Seattle, Washington 98112
WHAT WE’LL BE TALKING ABOUT:
From the book’s publisher – “An insightful, charming, and absolutely fascinating memoir from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” (one of the top five most popular New York Times pieces of 2015) explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy.
What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer.
In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, Catron deconstructs her own personal canon of love stories. She delves all the way back to 1944, when her grandparents first met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver, drawing insights from her fascinating research into the universal psychology, biology, history, and literature of love. She uses biologists’ research into dopamine triggers to ask whether the need to love is an innate human drive. She uses literary theory to show why we prefer certain kinds of love stories. She urges us to question the unwritten scripts we follow in relationships and looks into where those scripts come from in the first place. And she tells the story of how she decided to test a psychology experiment that she’d read about—where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions—and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship.
In How to Fall in Love with Anyone Catron flips the script on love and offers a deeply personal, and universal, investigation.”
Here’s the Facebook event, if you’re into that kind of thing.
TICKETS: $5 for a seat, $31 for a seat & a copy of the book!
The last two Offbeat Ada’s events have both sold out (the venue only holds 35 people), and this one will as well. As of publication, there are only 10 seats left. Get your tickets NOW.