Let's talk about the sociology of engagement rings (and win a free necklace, too!) #Sponsors#jewelry#marriage April 11 2014 | Catherine Clark bijouxandbits This business paid a fee to be listed on Offbeat Home & Life because they feel their products and services are a great fit with offbeat philosophies… and we agree. Learn more about our ads. Mother and baby elephant necklace from Turtle Love We recently had a big discussion about engagement rings over on Offbeat Bride. It's an eleven billion dollar industry that we find fascinating. We've talked about their significance to our love, how to balance them with our own personal convictions, and whether to buy or wear one at all. They are one of those cultural phenomenons that is just super-intriguing. Adrianne from our longtime sponsor, Turtle Love, also finds it interesting. She is on a mission to create thoughtful dialogue about the industry and perspectives from all kinds of people and communities (especially those not immersed in wedding planning). She wants to find out what messages engagement rings send, how people negotiate engagement rings with their partners, and the roles that they play in family and community. So if you are married, engaged, single, or never plan to get married, she'd love ALL your opinions in this survey. The survey closes at 11:59 p.m. on Monday, April 14th. As a bonus, one lucky survey respondent will win a silver necklace from Turtle Love, just in time for a Mother's Day present, or to keep for yourself! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Catherine Clark Catherine Clark is Offbeat Bride's Senior Editor. In her spare time she loiters at her local library, makes art, watches movies en masse, plays video and tabletop games, poorly cooks healthy things, cuddles with her feline fur baby, and blogs at BijouxandBits.com. @enidjcoleslaw @bijouxandbits @bijouxandbits PREVIOUS Investing tips for a clueless twentysomething? NEXT I want to have an affair with these Mad Men-style time capsule homes Show/Hide comments [ 11 ] When does this survey close? I'd like to give it some consideration, rather than answer it superficially. Reply It closes at 11:59pm on Monday, 4/14. I've added it to the post. Reply What a thoughtful quiz. It really made me reflect on my own feelings on engagement rings. Reply This survey was awesome! Reply I enjoyed this survey. I'm not engaged yet, but it made me realize that it's OK to not want an engagement ring! Even though everyone looks at you weird ^_^ Reply I have been engaged twice in my life and the survey really made me compare the two times. For me my thoughts about engagement and rings didn't change between the two engagements. However, my thoughts and expectations about a partner drastically changed between the two engagements. In general having or not having a ring doesn't affect my view of a couple's sincerity. For me though my "ringless" engagement was not entered into with as much thought and care as my "ringed" engagement. I think that had more to do with my age (I was 18/19 when I first got engaged, I was 25 the second time) than the ring but it was an interesting correlation. I'd love to know if any others have been engaged more than once and how/if you think having a ring or not affected those engagements. Reply Maybe it is because I think a lot about human subjects review boards for a living, but this survey raised some red flags for me. First, she does not explicitly ask for permission to quote in her book. I assume she is going to, if you give a name or not, but that is not spelled out. Secondly, she does not have a way for you to be entered in the drawing without also agreeing to follow up conversations. That should be an option. Finally, she does not clearly say what she is using this information for. How will the data provided be used in the future? If I share potentially identifying information, could that be published in her book? Reply This is great feedback for Turtle Lo Co. I strongly suggest contacting them directly with your concerns: https://www.turtleloveco.com/Articles.asp?ID=158 Reply This survey was awesome! Any way we'll see some results or common responses? I'm fiending for data! Reply I happily filled the survey and I really enjoyed it 😀 Necklace-wise, I wanted to point out that since I'm in Europe I'm usually left out of these sweet giveaways 🙁 but I have a friend in NY so in case I win it I could ask her to receive it for me. Just sayin'. 😉 Reply I had never been to Turtle Love before, but they look awesome. I think I'll buy that necklace for my mom regardless! Are they one of the sponsors we have that give us an offbeat discount, perchance? 😮 Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Subscribe me to your mailing list No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy.