Category Archive

sex

Saying “bye” to labels: I’m not sure of my sexuality anymore, and that’s okay

There was a time when having a label to my sexuality was very important to me because it helped me name what I was. I’ll tell you now: I still don’t have a nicely labeled answer for what I am. And I don’t care.

BDSM in mainstream media: Why I taught my kids about safe words

Kinky sex has made its way into mainstream culture in places other than poorly written erotica-gone-NYT-bestsellers-list. Music videos like Rihanna’s S&M, Christina Aguilera’s Not Myself Tonight, for instance. Our kids are seeing it, hearing and some of them are even reading the book. I anticipate that the majority of learning on the topic will not be from me but they’ll likely see videos and ads, or hear things from peers that could use some context, and I prefer to be the person who provides that context.

How Je Joue can help you find your G-spot

Right now, Je Joue is currently running a promotion on their g-spot toy, the G-Kii — it’s marked down to $99 for their summer sale. In honor of that sale, here are 5 things Je Joue wants you to know about finding your g-spot with the G-Kii…

sexless marriage

Married and celibate: Adjusting my relationship expectations in a sexless marriage

We’re barely in our thirties, but my husband and I are currently in a “sexless marriage” (defined as a couple who have sex “10 times a year or less”). I am writing this because I want other partners in similar situations to know that they aren’t alone.

Bisexual in a straight marriage

Coming out as bisexual to my husband was as strange as coming out to myself. I ended up speaking in so many circles that it took another conversation about two months later for him to realize that I was actually trying to come out to him. He had questions. I had questions. The biggest question was if I still wanted to be with him, or if coming out was also me realizing that I wanted more dating experience with other women.

how to get back in the sex saddle

How do you get back into the sexual saddle when you’re not able to ride the horse?

There’s a ton of information out there about how to get back into the sexual saddle, but not much about what to do when you’re not able to ride the horse, so to speak.

Open letter to my teenage self about sex

My “official” first time was pretty much by-the-book. It got better with practice, but I wish someone had spoken with me more honestly about what to expect. If I could write a letter to my teenage self with some advice about how to go about sex, this is what I would say…

Discovering I’m asexual… then telling my partner

I knew of asexuality but I thought that it was cut and dry, I didn’t understand it was a spectrum. I thought “well that doesn’t apply to me, I want sex sometimes.” Then I became made aware that things like Demi Asexual and Grey Asexual were, well, things.