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My poly tips for working with jealousy (even if you're not polyamorous!)

A theme in poly articles I see a lot: non-monogamy requires so much effort — likely too much effort for most of us. And I have a growing appetite for unpacking our assumptions that non-monogamy is so much harder than other ways of being in relationship.

I'm not here to tell you that scheduling time with and navigating the feelings of multiple partners doesn't require a lot of work, or even that I think everyone needs to want to do the kind of work polyamory requires. Non-monogamy isn't a one-size-fits-all approach any more than monogamy is and both require dedication and communication…

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Coming out as polyamorous to family (how I did it and how it may help you!)

In the spring of 2015, I was planning my wedding. However, the elephant in the room was that I was in love with someone else. My non-fiancé partner was a huge part of my life, and I couldn't imagine them not being at our wedding.

The problem was, I hadn't told my family about the polyamorous aspect of my life or my long-established queerness. It was one of those things that I cowardly wanted to save until there was "something to report," lest I draw my parents into my straight-presenting relationship and the hypothetical non-monogamous sex and love I was open to having with imaginary future people of indiscriminate gender.