3 secrets for learning the language of money in relationships

It's no secret that one the most contentious issues in many relationships is money. It truly does make the world — and our lives — go 'round. Money also doesn't discriminate as to who its issues affect; it influences partnerships between people of any age, race, gender, background, or income level. I'm by no means an expert on relationships or money, as I'm sure Dr. Phil and Suze Orman could tell quickly given the chance. But I am someone who's had to examine her own financial values in the context of her relationship. I've had to work with my husband to cultivate shared ideas and practices for our life together. The following tenets are a product of my six years of learning, compromise, and growth…


Navigating money issues with lower income roommates

I love my roomies, but while I have a sizable savings account and decent income, they are barely living paycheck to paycheck, even with help from family. Our rent is going up and though they've assured me they can afford it, I'm getting nervous. I don't want to loan them money, but I do want to stay current on our bills.


Money envelopes have taken over my life in the most overwhelmingly wonderful way

About a year ago, my partner and I — while broke and realizing that our Christmas money budget was about negative fifty dollars — had an idea. We grabbed a few envelopes, and on each one, wrote the name of a bill, the amount it typically cost, and when the bill was due. We put the envelopes in a stack in our room, and with every paycheck, we'd take a bit out to put in the envelopes. But guys, these envelopes, they are taking over my life!