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Advice for being the polyamorous partner to a monogamous spouse

I'm monogamous to my soul. My husband of 21 years recently dropped the Poly bomb. And, I'm sorry poly people, no matter how gently you think you're approaching it, it still feels like a bomb. But he doesn't want to lose his family, and God help me, I still love him, so I'm staying. He'll have his happiness, the girls will have their family and home intact, and I'll learn to live with it.

That being said, there are some things you can do if your monogamous spouse agrees to open your marriage…

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I find myself more and more disconnected and not attracted to my husband. And now I've gotten to the point where I can't stand his smell, can't stand kissing him, all his little mannerisms annoy the hell out of me, I can't stand him touching me in bed, I put a pillow between us so I can't smell him… The list goes on. And he is NOT getting what he deserves out of a wife.

However, I have not been true to my feelings or honest with him that being with him has always felt wrong. Until recently…

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It's been six months since leaving my husband for another man…

It has been six months since I left my husband for another man… Six months that I have been paying for my choice through reduced access to my most amazing children ever. Six months that I have been experiencing the utmost happiness, while also experiencing the most gut wrenching guilt. Six months where I have stayed silent on this topic because of the guilt and fear of being judged for what I did.

I'm not staying silent anymore…

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My husband wants space and I don't. Are we doomed?

My husband and I have been together for three years and always struggled with the balance of personal space. I don't need to be alone at all — in fact I hate it. He is the opposite and thinks we should live apart, feels smothered…

How can our relationship survive if he doesn't want to be around me 90% of the time? Isn't him wanting to live separately just the first step in ending the relationship? Or is it already over, and I'm refusing to acknowledge it?