Adventure vs. settling down: can we make it work when I want to roam and he wants to stay home?

My husband and I spent our 20s working short term contracts all over the country. For me every day was an adventure, but it turned out the itinerant life made my husband miserable, so we settled down. But now I'm miserable. The thing is, I still love my husband. We still make each other laugh until neither of us can move. We still have sex. But the quiet life isn't for me.

So what do we do? Is it possible to be happily married to someone who doesn't share your life goals? Or do I divorce my best friend?


I want a permanent "weekend relationship." Is that possible?

Recently, I found a great guy who is just like me and we clicked immediately. He lives some 200 miles away and we basically have a weekend relationship. I really love it that way and so does he. We don't take it as a "phase," though. We're looking at it more like a perfect relationship pattern.

I do hear warning voices, though, telling me that this isn't a "real" relationship. So I wonder… are there other people out there living in a similar weekend relationship pattern?


I only live with my husband half of the year (and I'm okay with it)

I joke with my friends that I am a "part-time wife" because, for about half the year, I live with my husband and two cats in Boise, Idaho. The other half, I spend in Kalamazoo, Michigan working on my Ph.D. in English. This is a temporary situation, but it does raise a few eyebrows, and like any non-traditional living arrangement, it presents its own challenges.