From infertility to pregnancy and moving forward with new life

Then I took the test. It was positive. I genuinely believed the test was faulty. I was torn between a massive urge to run into the street and scream at passers-by "I'M PREGNANT", and the ever present feeling that this was not possible, I was not pregnant, and the test was wrong. I walked home in the rain. I dropped my paperwork on the floor, and it stuck there like glue. I left it. The wind was cooling my neck. The moment is so clear.

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How can I ask non-intrusive family planning questions?

Before, I didn't get it. I didn't think it was a big deal to ask if or when a couple was having kids. I didn't realize the impact that merely being asked questions along these lines can have on someone dealing with personal decisions. I've actually apologized to a couple people for my past ignorance. But now I have a new problem: since these questions are off limits, I have no idea what to say!

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Infertility and a wedding: what if I can't have children?

Having a baby always felt like a given — I'd get married, have a baby and live happily ever after. That's the way it works, right? Six pregnancies and seven miscarriages later (one set of twins) we find ourselves facing the very real possibility that I simply can not carry a child to term. Three months seems to be average, though one pregnancy was lost at five months.

If you're struggling to conceive, talking to friends in the same boat may help you cope

I wrote about our struggle on my blog, and the reception was incredible. People shared that they'd been trying, personal struggles of their own, that they'd be thinking of me. No one gave me well-meaning but awful advice. Some people who now have tiny children shared that it took them years of trying to get to that point and they sympathised with my struggle. All up, it has been a positive experience and I'm glad I put myself out there.