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My gender identity is confused and I'm okay with it

I should probably start by identifying my gender, but that is… complicated. I am a female, physically. What I identify as is where it gets blurry.

As a teenager, in the early nineties, I had no internet to help me figure it out. And, as a broke young adult in the new millenia, I still didn't have the amazing resources and web connection of, "Hey, my specific gender identity has a name and I'm not alone!"

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Why my feminism includes traditional gender roles

When you hear the word "feminist," you likely don't picture is me: a housewife who does all the cooking and housekeeping, who makes dinner from scratch, and a solid effort to look pretty for her husband everyday when he comes home from work. I'm "mom" to my two rescued mutts. I'm a published writer. I'm a wife. And my feminism includes my right to want to be the best wife and partner that I can possibly be to my husband. The keyword there being "partner."

On being the only female at the skatepark: The pressure, bullying, and the sexism

As a lone female in a skatepark full of men, you stand out. They make comments. They laugh. They criticize. But most upsetting is that harassment and unwanted advances are encouraged when you are a singular women around a large groups of men. This is my story of skate park misogyny. Then let's talk about your tips or advice for being the only female at the skate park? How do you handle the pressure, the bullying, and the sexism?

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Becoming a wife and mother: What's going to happen to my identity?

The kind of questions my husband and I get are totally different. People ask him, "Are you ready to lose your freedom?" while people ask me, "Are you ready to be a mother?" Maybe it's just the way these jokes and comments and questions stacked up, but it doesn't feel like I can just "lighten up." Any confidence I had in myself to ignore what people were saying quickly dissipated, and one of my newest and biggest worries was born.

As I grow in my relationship with my husband and future family, what's going to happen to my identity?