11 Comments Nov 7th A response: why we're saying yes to a third foster child On saying no to a second foster child showed up on Offbeat Mama precisely as we were struggling to make a decision on taking an additional foster placement, and I am hoping that we will be able to say the same thing about our decision that I have to say about hers: "I'm glad you did what is right for y'all." Read More 10 Comments Oct 19th On saying no to a second foster child For weeks now, I've been feeling this slow and steady ache growing — the feeling that I am not doing enough, can never do enough. I know, rationally that most of us only have the time and resources to do a very little bit. But the idea that there are 16,000 foster children in NYC alone, each as unique and precious as my foster son, each needing stable, loving homes both temporary and permanent, actually hurts me when I think about it, makes it hard to breathe. I can do so, so little. Read More 38 Comments Dec 29th Our queer family ditched fertility treatments to foster-to-adopt We are a queer family of two (for now). My husband is transgender and I identify as queer. Obviously, any baby-making to be had wasn't needed some outside help. We've been together for ten years, and I've been baby-crazy for all ten of them. Read More 61 Comments Jun 24th How tubal ligation fits into our family planning Here I was, ready to talk to a doctor about getting a tubal ligation at twenty-three and with no children. Many doctors will not even consider doing a tubal on a woman unless she is over 30 and/or already has children; they worry that she will one day change her mind. Yet my husband and I had known for months that this was what we wanted. Read More 19 Comments May 10th Two gay dads + twelve adopted kids = fourteen happy family members AZ Central recently featured the wonderful story of Steve and Roger Ham, a gay couple raising 12 adopted children in a state not historically known for positive attitudes toward the ideas of gay marriage OR gay adoption. Read More 1234
10 Comments Oct 19th On saying no to a second foster child For weeks now, I've been feeling this slow and steady ache growing — the feeling that I am not doing enough, can never do enough. I know, rationally that most of us only have the time and resources to do a very little bit. But the idea that there are 16,000 foster children in NYC alone, each as unique and precious as my foster son, each needing stable, loving homes both temporary and permanent, actually hurts me when I think about it, makes it hard to breathe. I can do so, so little. Read More 38 Comments Dec 29th Our queer family ditched fertility treatments to foster-to-adopt We are a queer family of two (for now). My husband is transgender and I identify as queer. Obviously, any baby-making to be had wasn't needed some outside help. We've been together for ten years, and I've been baby-crazy for all ten of them. Read More 61 Comments Jun 24th How tubal ligation fits into our family planning Here I was, ready to talk to a doctor about getting a tubal ligation at twenty-three and with no children. Many doctors will not even consider doing a tubal on a woman unless she is over 30 and/or already has children; they worry that she will one day change her mind. Yet my husband and I had known for months that this was what we wanted. Read More 19 Comments May 10th Two gay dads + twelve adopted kids = fourteen happy family members AZ Central recently featured the wonderful story of Steve and Roger Ham, a gay couple raising 12 adopted children in a state not historically known for positive attitudes toward the ideas of gay marriage OR gay adoption. Read More 1234
38 Comments Dec 29th Our queer family ditched fertility treatments to foster-to-adopt We are a queer family of two (for now). My husband is transgender and I identify as queer. Obviously, any baby-making to be had wasn't needed some outside help. We've been together for ten years, and I've been baby-crazy for all ten of them. Read More 61 Comments Jun 24th How tubal ligation fits into our family planning Here I was, ready to talk to a doctor about getting a tubal ligation at twenty-three and with no children. Many doctors will not even consider doing a tubal on a woman unless she is over 30 and/or already has children; they worry that she will one day change her mind. Yet my husband and I had known for months that this was what we wanted. Read More 19 Comments May 10th Two gay dads + twelve adopted kids = fourteen happy family members AZ Central recently featured the wonderful story of Steve and Roger Ham, a gay couple raising 12 adopted children in a state not historically known for positive attitudes toward the ideas of gay marriage OR gay adoption. Read More 1234
61 Comments Jun 24th How tubal ligation fits into our family planning Here I was, ready to talk to a doctor about getting a tubal ligation at twenty-three and with no children. Many doctors will not even consider doing a tubal on a woman unless she is over 30 and/or already has children; they worry that she will one day change her mind. Yet my husband and I had known for months that this was what we wanted. Read More 19 Comments May 10th Two gay dads + twelve adopted kids = fourteen happy family members AZ Central recently featured the wonderful story of Steve and Roger Ham, a gay couple raising 12 adopted children in a state not historically known for positive attitudes toward the ideas of gay marriage OR gay adoption. Read More 1234
19 Comments May 10th Two gay dads + twelve adopted kids = fourteen happy family members AZ Central recently featured the wonderful story of Steve and Roger Ham, a gay couple raising 12 adopted children in a state not historically known for positive attitudes toward the ideas of gay marriage OR gay adoption. Read More 1234